Relapse Recovery: Mountain Air, Relapsing and Finding the Way Back . . . One Breath at a Time

June 15, 2013 in In the News, Recovery Books, Relapse by jherzanek | Permalink

Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back . . . One Breath at a Time

RECOVERY BOOKS:

Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back . . . One Breath at a Time

~By Holli Kenley, M.A., MFT

A unique, insightful and one-of-a-kind way to look at “Finding the Way Back.”

~Review by Judy Herzanek, Changing Lives Foundation

Holli Kenley weaves her personal journey of recovery: emotional relapse and ultimate return to serenity in this very unique and refreshing book “Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back . . . One Breath at a Time.”

There is something deeply personal and passionate about the way Holli expresses her soul-connection with the mystique of nature and the mountains. The colorful, lyrical descriptions of her intimate relationship to the seasonal changes, wildlife and the environment are truly insightful.

“. . . I recalled Nature’s lifelines that I grabbed hold of in my downward spiral.”

As “Mountain Air” takes us through a series of vignettes, we read as Holli experiences a roller coaster of emotions. Ultimately, she allows herself to be still, apply universal lessons learned and regain strength from her deep connection to nature. She reaches deep within to experience her own self-discovery.

Holli writes, “We search for quick fixes, or grasp for life-lines that will keep us afloat, or seek out diversions that will assuage the pain, but relapse is relentless. For most of us, it isn’t until we hit the bottom or until the shame-filled waters spill into the inevitable drain that we have a chance of resurfacing and of recycling back to our fountain of recovering.”

This book can help the reader to do the same as they apply the lessons learned herein, to their own situation. At the end of each chapter is an opportunity for the reader to review and reflect, as they contemplate questions and review suggestions for journaling and self-discovery.

Originally intended as a personal journal–to help the author work through and recover from her downward spiral of relapse, the words are candid and colorfully descriptive (almost as if we are experiencing her most personal thoughts and reliving her darkest moments).

Step by step, the author is lifted from her darkness as she “connects the dots.” I recommend this unique book to anyone looking for guidance in overcoming his or her own situation of (any kind of) relapse.

Holli Kenley, M.A. Marriage and Family Therapist

“Once we are out from underneath the blanket of shame that has weighed us down, we are free to become and to be our true selves.”

Holli Kenley, M.A., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, currently works in the field of psychology as an author, educator, and workshop presenter.

Formerly from the Southern California area, she practiced for ten years in a counseling center before moving into private practice.

Spending much of her time working in the areas of abuse, trauma, betrayal, and cyber bullying, Holli is the author of two books including Breaking Through Betrayal: And Recovering The Peace Within; and an e-single Betrayal-Proof Your Relationship: What Couples Need To Know & Do.

Holli Kenley is an ongoing contributing author for Recovering The Self : A Journal of Hope and Healing, and she has had several articles published on cyber bullying, including an e-single entitled Cyber Bullying No More: Parenting A High Tech Generation.

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Drug Addiction Relapse: The Revolving Door

June 15, 2013 in Relapse by jherzanek | Permalink

Drug Addiction Relapse:

Changing Lives Foundation recently came across an infographic containing some great info on relapse
—Drug Addiction Relapse: The Revolving Door

Reposted below with permission.

Drug addiction relapse happens often. It happens more than we would like to admit. Addiction has been called a chronic relapsing disease. Addiction relapse is when the person in recovery chooses to try some controlled using again after attempting to remain abstinent. We know that addicts/alcoholics can’t control substance use. If they could, they wouldn’t be in this situation in the first place. Relapse is one more failed attempt at trying to control how much then are able to use.

Read more about drug addiction relapse:
Relapse. It Happens.  . . . but it doesn’t have to be the end of the road.

Relapse: The Revolving Door Infographic
Infographic by Clarity Way

Read more about drug addiction relapse (Chapter 30, Relapse. Plan on It):
“Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

RELATED:
Relapse explained: “Slips and Human Nature”

Addiction. What if they just CAN’T quit?

Can a person just cut down on their drinking?

Get the help you need today.

Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe Herzanek
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Monthly Review: Fable of the Porcupine, Does Heavy Use Create Addiction? and more.

May 23, 2013 in Monthly Reviews by jherzanek | Permalink

Monthly Review: April 2013

In case you missed some of our latest posts from the month of April, 2013
—we’ve gathered them together again for you to enjoy.

Thanks for being part of our Changing Lives Foundation Community.
We hope you have a safe, relaxing Memorial Day Weekend.

 

Are some people beyond hope for recovery?

ASK JOE:

Are some people beyond hope for recovery?

“What can happen is that some people may be beyond help.”

 

 

Fable of the Porcupine

 

JUST FOR FUN:

Fable of the Porcupine

It was the coldest winter ever—Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together.

 

 

 

 

 

Does Heavy Use Create Addiction?

 

ASK JOE:

Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Low cost and No cost Alcohol Treatment Options

 

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Low cost, No cost Alcohol and Drug Treatment Directory

Addiction Treatment, Sober Living, Halfway Homes,
Family Help, Online Resources and More.

 

 

 

 

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Can a person just cut down on their drinking?

October 18, 2012 in AA Related, Al-Anon Related. . ., Ask Joe, Denial, Why Don't They Just Quit? Book Excerpts by jherzanek | No comments

 

ASK JOE:
Can a person just cut down on their drinking?:

Can a person just cut down on their drinking?

JoeHerzanek


Q: Can a person just cut down on their drinking?


A. Yes, a person can just cut down.

But not if the person is an alcoholic or drug addict. When we are talking about cutting down, the implication is that the person has the ability to control how much he uses without going overboard or having problems.

Lack of control is perhaps the biggest sign of addiction. For the dependent person, alcohol or drugs now have control. At this point, it is often the person’s stubborn pride that keeps them from seeing the problem.

Whether you are asking this question of yourself or if you are thinking of someone close to you, it is a red flag—a warning sign.

Social drinkers rarely, if ever, need to think about being able to control how much they drink.

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Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe HerzanekThis “Q & A with Joe Herzanek” is excerpted from
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Relapse. It Happens. ~by Joe Herzanek

RESOURCES:
Addiction Recovery Resources for Families of Substance Abusers, Addicts and Alcoholics

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MORE ASK JOE:
> Do you have to stop seeing all your old friends in order to recover?

> Is a relapse—failure?

> What is a Pink Cloud? What does the term “pink cloud” mean?

> If someone can stop using drugs or alcohol for weeks at a time, they “aren’t an addict—correct?

>Chronic Pain Management & Pain Pill Addiction: What to do?

>How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling the truth?

>”I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in Fiance’s need to get drunk every night.”

>Should my husband “back off?”

>Gambling vs. Drug Addiction? What is your opinion?

>How can I tell if someone is an addict/alcoholic or just a heavy user?

>What is Methadone? What is Harm Reduction?

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“Why Don’t They Just Quit?” Where Was This Book 10 Years Ago?!

June 5, 2013 in Professional Reviews, Recovery Books, Relapse, Why Don't They Just Quit? Book Excerpts by jherzanek | Permalink

Holli Kenley, Mountain Air

 

Changing Lives Foundation is proud to introduce Holli Kenley, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of the award-winning new book on relapse “Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back . . . One Breath at a Time.” We have recently added it to our “Recommended Reading” page and our review will be coming soon.

Holli has recently taken the time to read and review “Why Don’t They Just Quit?” and we reprint it below with gratitude. Thank you Holli for your eloquent and heartfelt words. We are honored to be associated with an author of your caliber.

 

Where Was This Book 10 Years Ago?!

Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe Herzanek

“Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

~ Review by Holli Kenley, M.A., MFT

I just finished reading  “Why Don’t They Quit” by Joe Herzanek, and I have just one question  – Where was this book 10 years ago when I needed it?!!

Of all the recovery books I have read on addiction and recovery, there has not been one that equals this one in scope, in sequence of organizational formatting, and in its informative, experiential, and common sense approach.  I think it is often a challenge, for an author who is integrating life experiences into his self-help book, to do so with an objectivity and openness to the myriad of complex recovery theories, methods, and approaches. Joe Herzanek does so with clarity, completeness, and concrete strategies for finding one’s way through a maze of pain and with sound practical steps for moving forward.

Although I felt that every section of “Why Don’t They Quit” was extremely important, if I had to choose just one, it would be Part 4—Life in Recovery. This is a partly due to my own professional and personal view about recovering. I love this quote by Joe, “I like to say that life is an odyssey, an extended adventure with peaks and valleys. A person in recovery can use this time to find greater life purpose and be healthy enough to help others fight the battle of addiction. This is a great way to think about life in recovery.”  I believe that if we all applied that philosophy to life in general—as we all experience injury as well as joy in everyday living—we would spend less time in the pain-field and more time seeking its purpose and meaning.

I also strongly support the concept of a holistic approach to recovery that Mr. Herzanek shares in Part 4—addressing the body, the mind, and the spirit. At a time when there are so much focus on a singular quick fix solution to our illnesses, diseases, and challenges, I was so impressed by the time and attention that Herzanek gives to this critical piece in recovering. Step by step, he guides the reader through a myriad of practical healing tools and strategies while blending them into a comprehensive and complimentary process.

And although I am quite familiar with the topic of relapse, I was highly impressed with Chapter 30 in which Mr. Herzanek addresses this essential topic—“Relapse: Plan on It”.  I appreciate how he normalizes it as a part of recovery, and yet makes clear that there are solid steps to take in minimizing it and preparing for it. With the shame that accompanies relapse, there is no need to pile more layers of guilt and self-blame. Mr. Herzanek once again provides us with clear insight into its causes with common sense tools for moving through it without shaming the reader in the process!

Lastly, In Part 4, I was incredibly moved by the Conclusion where Mr. Herzanek writes: “I have heard story after story from addicts about how unfair life can be. But regardless of the amount of unfairness we have experienced, we must make peace with it—or allow us to destroy us. The choice is ours.” I think so many individuals who have been wronged (by themselves or by others) wait around for someone else to make it right or make it go away. And the longer we wait, the longer we hold ourselves hostage to our circumstances.  And, we remain sick.  Every fiber in my being agrees with Mr. Herzanek for I have witnessed it many times with former clients and in my personal life. While so many things are out of our control, our wellness it not.

And finally as an overall comment, I really appreciate how Mr. Herzanek not only brought in soulful quotations from famous as well as infamous individuals, but I was moved by how he blended in the short anecdotes from his wife, his mother, his former wife, his daughter, his son, and from himself. For anyone who is living the nightmare of addiction—as a family member or friend of an addict—there is no better way to feel understood and comforted than to know that someone else has traveled in your shoes. And, there is no better way to instill hope.

I often say and write, “Wellness awaits each of us. We choose the time.”

Get a copy of “Why Don’t They Just Quit?”
Your wellness awaits you—it is right here in this book. Grab hold of your recovery and don’t let go!

 

Holli Kenley, M.A. Marriage and Family TherapistHolli Kenley, M.A., MFT

Author:
> “Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back…One Breath at a Time”
> “Breaking Through Betrayal: And Recovering The Peace Within”

 

 

 

RELATED:
Relapse. It Happens. ~by Joe Herzanek

RESOURCES:
Addiction Recovery Resources for Families of Substance Abusers, Addicts and Alcoholics

 

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Low cost, No cost Alcohol and Drug Treatment Directory

May 1, 2013 in Addiction Treatment Centers, by State, Feedback from You, Low Cost Resources, No Cost Resources, Recovery from Meth Addiction, Rehab Scholarships, Resources, Sober Living, Treatment Options by jherzanek | Permalink

Low cost and No cost Alcohol Treatment Options

Low cost, No cost Alcohol and Drug Treatment Directory

Treatment, Sober Living, Halfway Homes, Family Help, Online Resources and More.
Updated 5.23.13

 
Help with drug addictions
Are you tearing your hair out trying to find reasonably-priced help for your addicted loved one? Are you also looking for help for yourself and your family as you deal with their addiction?

This Directory is a work-in-progress. We’ve started with our original Directory “Drug Addiction Help Recovery Resources for Friends, Families and Employers” and deleted any resources that are HIGH priced or cost a LOT.

 

Please help by sharing your referrals with us.
There are so many who need this information!

WE NEED YOUR HELP!—if you know of a great NO cost or low-cost resource for treatment for an addict and/or help and support for families of addicts, contact us with a link to the resource website and a short description of what this resource offers and why you would recommend it. We will research it and add it to the list.

This is our first attempt to create a group list based on recommendations from our Changing Lives Foundation Private Group members, newsletter subscribers and blog readers.

Our vision is to make this the most comprehensive list of nationwide low-cost resources available!
> Many thanks to our friends at Love First for sharing some of their favorites with us.

Keep scrolling—this is a long document . . . and it’s going to be a LOT longer!
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 ~ Low Cost Resources ~

(Scroll down for NO cost resources)

TREATMENT CENTERS:

CALIFORNIA
 New Found Life Family run, high quality, low cost treatment provider in Long Beach, CA

New Life Community Services New Life Community Services provides inpatient and outpatient drug & alcohol treatment, emergency shelter for families with children, and counseling services

Cornerstone of Southern California Family owned, high quality, multiple programs and transitional living

Above it All Located on the shores of Lake Arrowhead (CA), an outstanding treatment provider

New Directions for Women High quality program for women in California

Cri-Help Public funding available. Many services

Whiteside Manor Full service group of residential centers in California

House of Hope Treatment for women since 1955 in San Pedro, CA. Public funding for CA residents

COLORADO
The Haven (Women) An 89-bed Modified Therapeutic Community (MTC) located in Denver, Colorado for women, mothers and their infants. Provides intensive residential substance abuse treatment to women who are either pregnant or have an infant in their care

Harmony Foundation Residential treatment for men and women on 40 acre campus in Colorado. Very good clinical team

Valley Hope Association This organization operates 9 inpatient and numerous outpatient treatment centers in various states. Very good reputation and many years of experience

Arapahoe House (13 locations in Colorado) provides life-changing alcohol and drug rehabilitation at 13 locations in Denver. Provides substance abuse illness treatment for women and their children, teens, adults and families

CONNECTICUT
High Watch Farm Outstanding recovery center, founded by Bill Wilson and Marty Mann. Kent, Connecticut

FLORIDA
Vince Carter Sanctuary New, state-of-the-art center in Florida

Transitions Recovery Program Reasonably priced, in North Miami Beach Florida has the staff with the training and years of experience to create a relaxing and enjoyable atmosphere to reclaim your life from substance abuse.

LONG ISLAND
Long Island Center for Recovery Good, basic treatment program in Hampton Bays. Payment plans available

MARYLAND
Phoenix Recovery Center Good programs and a very reasonable price in Edgewater, Maryland

MICHIGAN
Dawn Farm: Residential treatment and long term recovery programs for alcoholics and addicts. A long-standing provider with a great reputation. Ann Arbor, Michigan

Harbor Hall Long term residential treatment for adult men in Petoskey, Michigan. Outstanding clinical staff and many other services. First-rate treatment at a very affordable price

MINNESOTA
The Retreat Excellent spiritual recovery center with veteran staff and outstanding results. An “AA Immersion” program in Wayzata, Minnesota

NEW YORK
Villa Veritas Long-standing, high quality program in upstate New York with an emphasis on tradition and strong alumni involvement. Close adherence to 12 Step principles. Kerhonkson, NY

NORTH CAROLINA
HOPE VALLEY Reasonably-priced 28 day treatment. Separate campuses for men and women. Family program strongly recommended.

OHIO
 Center for Chemical Addictions Treatment Full service, high quality program in Cincinatti, OH with a very reasonable fee structure and specialty programs

SOUTH DAKOTA
Tallgrass Recovery  Located in Sioux Falls, SD, with an emphasis on the spirituality of Alcoholics Anonymous. Sober living also available.

TENNESSEE
English Mountain Recovery: Very affordable, 90 day program in eastern Tennessee

TEXAS
Austin Recovery 30 and 90 day programs, very affordable and high quality. In Austin, Texas

UTAH
Women’s Retreat House  Accommodates up to 20 women for up to four months each. Residents pay $100 per week to help cover room and board, and all other funding for the house comes from small donations and fundraisers

Valley Camp Rehab Center (for Men) Eden, UT Very affordable and highly recommended, 12-step based.

WASHINGTON
Sundown M Ranch Tremendous value in residential treatment with traditional treatment values. Some public funding available. Adolescent and adult services, Sela, Washington

 

SOBER LIVING AND HALFWAY HOUSES:

CALIFORNIA
Legacy Sober Living Well structured sober living in Culver City, CA.

Puente House Structured living, reasonably priced, for men and women in San Gabriel Valley, CA.

A Step in the Right Direction Women’s sober living in California

Benchmark Transitions Transitional living for young adults, with an educational focus, Redlands, CA.

COLORADO
LAM Ministries (Loved-Ones Against Meth) Inexpensive residential treatment program. Christian/Faith based in Greeley for men

Oxford House Democratically run, self-supporting, and drug free group home. A national directory of all the houses is provided. Self Run, Self Supported, Addiction Recovery Houses

Serenity Houses Affordable, very nice 12-step-based Sober Living Homes in Colorado. The Serenity Houses provide a structured living environment for people with alcohol or drug dependency problems

FLORIDA
Sober Living Outpatient (Delray Beach, FL) Sober Living Outpatient is more than a treatment center; it is a magical place whereby clients and staff work in concert to assist the clients in their goal of living a fulfilled and peaceful life without the need for mood altering substances

New Life House (Los Angeles, CA) Sober Living for teens, young adults and adults. Each New Life House sober living is 12 Step-based and works through positive peer interaction, 24/7 support and a huge network of fellow sober men who have achieved long term sobriety.

The Sanctuary Outstanding halfway houses for men and women in Delray Beach, FL

ILLINOIS
Hazelden-Chicago High quality halfway house in Chicago, Illinois

MINNESOTA
Fellowship Club Hazelden’s halfway house in St. Paul, Minnesota

SOUTH DAKOTA
Tallgrass Recovery  Located in Sioux Falls, SD, Affordable living with an emphasis on the spirituality of Alcoholics Anonymous.

 

FAMILY HELP/RESOURCES FOR CHILDREN:


Betty Ford Children’s Program (Multiple locations) Did you know that the Betty Ford Center offers treatment for the children of the patient? Learn about the Betty Ford Center children’s program

BOOKS:
Recommended Books and DVDs for families of drug and alcohol abusers and addicts


Jail and Prison Re-entry Guide (Colorado) Getting On After Getting Out: A Re-entry Guide for Colorado. This 200 page book provides extensive information about preparing for release while incarcerated and re-entering society after release

 

 ~ NO Cost Resources ~

 

FREE ADDICTION TREATMENT

Drug Treatment for Patients with No Money  (article) A guide about finding treatment, free of cost. Don’t let a lack of money stop you from getting the professional help you need. Instead, consider all your options including free drug treatment through a rehab scholarship

NATIONWIDE
The Salvation Army Free in-residence rehabilitation programs, work therapy, counseling, Christian spiritual direction. Input zip code for nearest locations

 

COLORADO
Harvest Farm (Men) Long-term residential program for men, offers a multitude of programs. Run by the Denver Rescue Mission in Wellington, CO (New Life Program)

Champa House  (Women) Offers a multitude of programs to single mothers with dependent children (New Life Program), Denver

The Crossing (Men) Offers a multitude of programs to men determined to break the cycles of addiction, poverty and homelessness (New Life Program), Denver

 

FLORIDA
Faith Farm Ministries a free, minimum 9 month, faith-based, addiction recovery program with residential services for more than 400 men and women who have lost control of their lives due to alcohol and/or illegal and pharmaceutical drug addiction. Boynton Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Okeechobee

 

TEXAS
Palmer Drug Abuse Program (PDAP) San Antonio FREE recovery services for substance abuse and drug addiction. A 12 step, faith-based program that offers group meetings, individual and family counseling to families, siblings and teens, San Antonio

Palmer Drug Abuse Program (PDAP) Houston FREE recovery services for substance abuse and drug addiction. A 12 step, faith-based program that offers group meetings, individual and family counseling to families, siblings and teens, Houston

 

TWELVE-STEP:

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) A fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other so that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism (on the “Is AA for you?” page there are 12 questions to help you decide if you have a problem)

Al-Anon/Alateen Al-Anon/Alateen (which includes Alateen for younger members) offers hope and help to families and friends of alcoholics

Nar-Anon Nar-Anon family groups are a worldwide fellowship for those affected by someone else’s addiction

12-Step.org. Information and tools for working the 12-step program

Read the AA Big Book online Complete text of “Alcoholics Anonymous” also known as “The Big Book” is available in English, French, and Spanish

Using Al-Anon’s Steps in Our Personal Lives This series of podcasts discusses how Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps have helped people successfully handle a variety of challenges associated with the family illness of alcoholism

AA Intergroup AA Telephone Numbers, USA

Marijuana Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share our experience, strength, and hope with each other that we may solve our common problem and help others to recover from marijuana addiction

FAMILY GROUPS:

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Families Sharing Without Shame (Concord Hospital, Concord, N.H.) This is an open meeting for parents who have a child or children who have or are abusing drugs and or alcohol.

INTERVENTION:

Love First (Website) Jeff and Debra Jay have assembled a website that provides expert direction and planning for every aspect of intervention. Free videos.

 

CO-ADDICTION:

Soaring Above Co-Addiction—a book, blog and website dedicated to helping the co-addicted rise above their situation to take control of their own life. Workshops available

 

CHRISTIAN RECOVERY:


addiction2recovery reality.connection.change. Addiction recovery materials along with gripping videos of real people’s stories of change and recovery

Christians in Recovery Over 3000 Pages of help for recovery from life circumstances, self defeating behaviors and addictions. Unlimited Chat, live help, free magazine and more.

Celebrate Recovery A Christ-centered program ministering to those who struggle with hurts, hang-ups, habits or addictions.

COLORADO
Shift: A Better Way to Do LifeA safe community that focuses on working through these issues together by using the 12 steps to find a “better way to do life.”

ONLINE COMMUNITIES/SUPPORT:


Changing Lives Foundation Private Group (Facebook) A place for families and friends of a person struggling with alcohol or drug abuse/addiction—to post, discuss and help each other. This is a closed group where anyone can join—and safely post without fear of “the world” being able to see. Click on link, ask to join and someone will sign you in

The Addict’s Mom: Sharing Without Shame A group focusing on the mothers of addicted children. The relationship between the mother and addicted child is unique; that does not diminish the experiences of other family members. Join one of their many online communities—The Addict’s Mom, The Addict, The Addict’s Dad, The Single Addict’s Mom

FOB (Friends of Bill) A social network specifically designed for alcoholics and addicts. Connect with new friends from all over the world who are just like you. New, easy online instant chat!

In the Rooms The premier, most comprehensive online social network for the recovery community worldwide. For the 23 hours a day you’re not at a meeting. in the Rooms has many of the most popular 12-Step fellowships as groups for you to become a member of. In here you’ll find great discussions, great people, resources, and archives

Faces and Voices of Recovery Dedicated to changing public perceptions of recovery, promoting effective public policy in Washington and in all 50 states, and demonstrating that recovery is working for millions of Americans

 

ONLINE RESOURCES


Online Nar-Anon Outreach Online forum that provides opportunities to chat and attend online meetings over the internet (24/7)

Getting Them Sober One of the best websites, counseling resource and book series on recovery we have found

Parents. The Anti-Drug Extensive amount of info, advice, resources specifically written for parents

Online Al-Anon Outreach Information about online Al-Anon Family Groups and links to meetings on the Internet

Love and Logic Helpful articles, simple and practical techniques to help parents and teachers have less stress and more fun while raising responsible teens

Changing Lives Foundation An informative site providing help for friends and family of addicts/alcoholics—with a focus on how individuals and families recover from these problems. “Addicts and alcoholics aren’t crazy and they CAN quit!”

Sober.com Committed to helping the addicted and families affected by drug abuse and drug addiction—to find rehabs, especially troubled teens. This site also includes various interesting venues for recovering people to connect with each other.

Hazelden A comprehensive site for individuals, families, and communities struggling with addiction to alcohol and other drugs. This nonprofit organization helps people transform their lives by providing the highest quality treatment and continuing care services, education, research, and publishing products available today.

SoberNation The #1 National Recovery Resources and Addiction Treatment Centers Database on the internet

addiction2recovery
A unique Christian recovery organization focusing on outreach to people in all stages of addiction discovery and recovery, helping to  strengthen and empower individuals in recovery

The Institute for Addiction Study Challenging current thinking about addiction in order to inform individuals, groups and families of the current controversies within addiction treatment so they can make informed decisions about recovery

Drug Addiction Support News and current topics about drug addiction—including the latest books and DVD’s for Addiction Recovery, along with resources to learn how to help your family deal with drugs

 

BLOGS


The official blog of: Changing Lives Foundation We are convinced that people can recover—and make dramatic changes in their lives

Addiction Journal Addiction Journal is a compilation of thoughts, skills, and emotion to help other parents struggling with an addicted child. It is a work in progress, much like recovery

Cathy Taughinbaugh; Find your peace after addiction Sharing and Support for Addiction, Family help for Treatment and Recovery

There is No Hero in Heroin Blog A place for anyone with a family member caught in the grip of Heroin Addiction. You are not alone

Soaring Above Co-Addiction Helping your loved one get clean, while creating the life of your dreams

Dad on Fire On fire about the impact of addiction and need for solutions. This blog is always interesting to read

Parent of Addict  A compilation of thoughts, skills, and emotion to hopefully help other parents struggling with an addicted child

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Are some people beyond hope for recovery?

April 26, 2013 in Ask Joe by jherzanek | No comments

 

ASK JOE:
Are some people beyond hope for recovery?:

Are some people beyond hope for recovery?

JoeHerzanek


Q: Are some people beyond hope for recovery?


A. Almost never.

Other than a very small percentage of those who are severely mentally ill—I would say no. For every pathetic story of a life that appears beyond hope, there is also an equally dramatic story of recovery.

What can happen is that some people may be beyond help. What I mean is that at some point the helper will need to step back and let the person experience their own epiphany—and too much helping can have the opposite effect.

If helping turns to continued rescuing, the person never learns to solve his or her problems and becomes dependent on the helper.

Getting an addiction professional involved for objective advice is important for tougher cases. It is important for the friend not only to get the advice, but to follow it as well.

Never give up hope.

 

Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe HerzanekThis “Q & A with Chaplain Joe Herzanek” is excerpted from Part 5 of:
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> Do you have to stop seeing all your old friends in order to recover?

> Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?

>Chronic Pain Management & Pain Pill Addiction: What to do?

>”I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in Fiance’s need to get drunk every night.”

>Should my husband “back off?”

>Gambling vs. Drug Addiction? What is your opinion?

>How can I tell if someone is an addict/alcoholic or just a heavy user?

>What is Methadone? What is Harm Reduction?


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Fable of the Porcupine

April 25, 2013 in Just for Fun!, Words of Wisdom by jherzanek | No comments

Just for Fun: FABLE OF THE PORCUPINE

Fable of the Porcupine

The Fable of the Porcupine

It was the coldest winter ever—Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions even though they gave off heat to each other.

After a while they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companions, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others.

This way they were able to survive.

 

“The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people
but best is when each individual learns to live
with the imperfections of others
and can admire the other person’s good qualities.”

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Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?

April 22, 2013 in Ask Joe by jherzanek | No comments

 

ASK JOE:
Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?

Does Heavy Use Create Addiction?

JoeHerzanek


Q: Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?


A: Sometimes.

People who use alcohol and drugs in large quantities over time may become addicted to them. But this is not always the case. Only a percentage of users will become dependent. For many people, this period of heavy usage can be just a phase.

Social and recreational alcohol and drug use lead some people to abusive use. During this period, there may be consequences, such as a DUI, and for many, these consequences will be enough to inspire them to quit or control their use. It is common to see college students, for example, drinking and using drugs while in school, but most will later become social drinkers capable of moderating their use.
For others, even multiple consequences will not have the same effect, and they will continue to use until they are drug-dependent or addicted. No matter what the case, abusive use needs to be considered a warning sign. Family intervention should be discussed and possibly pursued, earlier rather than later.
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>Chronic Pain Management & Pain Pill Addiction: What to do?

>How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling the truth?

>”I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in Fiance’s need to get drunk every night.”

>Should my husband “back off?”

>Gambling vs. Drug Addiction? What is your opinion?

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Rehab Scholarships:

How to Find Free Drug or Alcohol Treatment

How to find Free Drug or Alcohol Addiction Treatment
~written by Beachway Therapy Center
Posted with permission.

Steps to Obtaining a Rehab Scholarship


How to find Free Drug or Alcohol Addiction Treatment

Free Drug Treatment
Drug treatment at a professional rehab facility is the only chance that some people have of getting their life back on the right track.

With hundreds of reputable rehab centers located throughout the United States, finding and comparing several options is never an issue. However, there is one detail that always comes into play: money.

Whether or not you can afford drug treatment and how you plan on paying for professional help is a concern that needs to be addressed.

It is essential to consider all payment options, including free drug treatment. With a rehab scholarship you are in position to have some or all of your treatment paid for by a third party.

Don’t let a lack of money stop you from getting the professional help you need. Instead, consider all your options including free drug treatment through a rehab scholarship.

“Don’t let a lack of money stop you from getting the professional help you need.”

Free Drug Treatment for Patients with No Money
Are you in need of professional drug treatment but unable to receive help because of a lack of money? This is a common position that is shared by millions of people all over the United States as well as the rest of the world.

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), there are roughly 20 million Americans currently suffering from behavioral or addictive disorders. Of these people, less than 10 percent are actively going through a treatment program. Approximately 40 percent are unable to access treatment because of the high cost.

If insufficient funds are holding you back from seeking treatment, there are several steps you can take to better your chance of receiving free drug or alcohol addiction treatment help in the near future:

  • Contact several rehab facilities that offer the type of program you are interested in.
  • Speak with the facility about the cost of treatment, including how much money you will pay upfront as well as the ongoing expense.
  • Ask if there is any financial assistance available for somebody in your position.
  • If you have insurance, determine if your treatment will be covered.

By taking these steps, as well as any others that are specific to your situation, it is simple to get a grip on your situation and whether or not you are in position to pay for treatment out of your own pocket and/or through the help of your insurance company.

What if I don’t have Insurance?
In a perfect world, all drug treatment stints would be covered 100 percent by health insurance providers. Unfortunately, this is not how things work.

Some patients don’t have medical insurance. Others have coverage but find out soon enough that rehab is not a covered service.

If you don’t have health insurance you are not out of options. There are a number of methods that can help you pay for treatment ranging from nonprofit organizations to public rehab to scholarships and payment plans.

“If you don’t have health insurance you are not out of options.”

What does my Insurance Cover?
If you have medical insurance the first thing you should do is examine your policy. If you don’t understand the details or need help, contact your insurance company or human resources representative.

There are drug and alcohol treatment provisions in most policies, so make sure you know what type of coverage you have and how much will be paid. Some insurance policies only cover the cost of treatment at an inpatient facility. Others offer outpatient coverage but only if there is a physical addiction. With so many details varying from one insurance company and policy to the next, it is important to check on this before doing anything else.

Deductibles and co-pays still apply in the case of drug rehab.

Tip: contact the drug treatment facility you are interested in attending and ask if there is anybody who can help with insurance related matters.

Most rehab scholarships are for people with no medical insurance and/or insufficient funds. However, you may still want to apply for such programs if you have insurance that does not cover rehab.

Hiding Rehab from your Insurance Company
Just because you have medical insurance does not mean you want to make a claim when it comes time to enter rehab. There are many reasons why you may want to leave your insurance company out of the equation – even if your policy does offer coverage.

1. Increased premium in the future. Many people fear that attending rehab will lead to an increase in their premium payment. Whether or not this is true is up for discussion, but it is definitely a concern. This is particularly worrisome if you pay for insurance out of your own pocket, as opposed to receiving coverage through your employer.

2. Coverage could be dropped. The only thing worse than having your premium increased is if your insurance company drops you altogether. Again, this is not something that should happen but it is another detail that needs to be considered.

3. To keep your employer in the dark. Do you have health insurance through your employer? In this case, somebody at your company may eventually find out that you entered a rehab facility. This information will become public (to the person you speak with) if you contact the human resources department regarding concerns of whether rehab is covered by your policy.

Can your employer discriminate against you and terminate your employment due to your stint in rehab? As long as your job performance stays the same the answer is no. That being said, you may not want anybody who works with you to know about your personal problem.

The Solution
Rather than take the risk of reporting this to your insurance company, you can do one of two things:

  • Pay for the cost of treatment out of your own pocket. Although this works for some people, most find that it is entirely too expensive.
  • Apply for a rehab scholarship. This is the most cost efficient way to receive treatment when you are unable to pay.

“Can your employer discriminate against you and terminate your employment due to your stint in rehab?
As long as your job performance stays the same the answer is no.“

Rehab Scholarships: Where does the Money come from?
There are many organizations, such as Second Chance, that help patients in need receive rehab scholarships.

These organizations focus on three main groups: those who do not have medical insurance; those who do not have the money to pay privately; and those who are unable to qualify for a bank loan due to bad credit.

Just because a rehab facility has some patients does not mean they are at full capacity. With each empty bed, money is lost. For this reason, facilities are often times open to “selling” treatment episodes to a third party. In turn, those in need of rehab can receive treatment at a discounted price (or free of cost).

Just like an education scholarship, money comes from a number of different sources. You don’t have to worry so much about where the funding comes from. Instead, you just want to make sure you are getting the right treatment at the right price.

Some of the sources of funding include: client contributions, guaranteed sponsorship financing, and discounted treatment fees.

With these types of funding it is possible to offer treatment to a larger group of people while guaranteeing facilities a particular percentage of the total fee – this is much better than an empty bed which would be written off as a total loss.

“There are many organizations that help patients in need receive rehab scholarships.”

Steps to Obtaining a Rehab Scholarship
Are you interested in a rehab scholarship as a way of paying for treatment? This is a good way to have some or all of your treatment paid for by a third party. For those without medical insurance or in a difficult financial situation, this is one of the better options.

Rather than go down the path of many before you, that of ignoring treatment altogether, follow these steps to obtain a rehab scholarship.

  1. Contact organizations that offer scholarships. They can give you more information on which facilities they work with, as well as the application process.
  2. Contact one or more of the facilities that you are interested in attending. At this point, you can discuss your financial situation in depth. Additionally, each facility can point you toward outside organizations that may be able to offer financial assistance in the form of a scholarship.
  3. Complete the application process. Just like any scholarship, regardless of the benefit and purpose, an application must be completed. This is used to determine your eligibility. Make sure you are 100 percent honest as you complete your application.

If you or a loved one is suffering from an addiction but are unable to pay for professional treatment, consider applying for a rehab scholarship.

 

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Why Do Alcoholics Drink?

February 21, 2013 in AA Related, Al-Anon Related. . ., Getting Them Sober, Guest Blog Posts by jherzanek | No comments

Why Do Alcoholics Drink? ~by Toby Rice Drews

Why do alcoholics drink?
~written by Toby Drews, author, “Getting Them Sober”
Posted with permission.

“It is so easy to slide into believing that the alcoholic drinks “because of a problem.”  And that if the alcoholic just “gets to the root of the problem” the drinking/drugging problem will just “wither away” by itself.”

 

That was the thinking of almost the entire mental-health profession about 25 years ago—before the days of James Milam (author of “Under the Influence”), who, along with other pioneers in the field of addictions, toured the country on a regular basis, lecturing and training mental-health practitioners, judges, pastoral counselors, nurses, criminal-justice personnel, and others, to help them understand that alcoholism is a primary disease.

What does that mean? It means that nothing can get you drunk. It means that no matter what else is going on in your life; no matter what your childhood was like; it means that no matter what your job is like, your spouse and/or kids are like; that none of those things get you drunk.

Yes, they cause stress! Life causes stress! And if everyone who had stress drank alcoholically, everyone would be an alcoholic.

“But the stressors of life are not what makes one an alcoholic.”

Why do alcoholics drink?
You “get” alcoholism because you are genetically predisposed to it. (You have to go back about six or eight generations to see the proclivity to alcoholism in one’s family; just because your parents did not have it, doesn’t mean it is not in your family. And back then, no one said people were alcoholic unless they were falling down in the gutter. And they certainly did not say that women or the clergy or any “good people” were alcoholic).

But, getting back to the mythology of “stress causing alcoholism”: Yes, stress can make you want to drink. Yes, having violent parents and being thrown out on the street at age 17 can make you want stress-relief and want to drink. But if you don’t have the brain receptors, etc., to be alcoholic or addicted, it’ll be a “passing phase” (It’s like the veterans after Vietnam: many, many of them tried heroin in Vietnam; but only 1/3 of those who took it in Vietnam, continued to take it, after they came home. Why? Because if you don’t have the physical set-up to become an alcoholic or other-drug addict, you won’t.

Look at all the spouses in Al-Anon who are not alcoholics who sat on bar stools to try to drink alongside their alcoholic spouses—to be there, to have their spouses at least physically with them—who could not keep up the drinking, even when they tried to).

And, if a catastrophe in life happens to a non-addict/non-alcoholic—and if they drink or do any other temporary thing to relieve stress—if they are not addicted, they will probably, after a while, not continue that drinking but get down to dealing with life on life’s terms.

Why do alcoholics drink?
The difference with alcoholics is that if they start to drink at all, even for a “legitimate stress reason”, then the craving and the obsession make them continue the process of the disease of alcoholism. And once that disease process in in effect, that disease does not need any “reason” to drink: In other words, alcoholics drink because the Yankees won; alcoholics drink because the Yankees lost; and alcoholics drink because the Yankees didn’t play.

“Alcoholics drink because the Yankees won; alcoholics drink because the Yankees lost; and alcoholics drink because the Yankees didn’t play.”

It often LOOKS like the alcoholic drinks because he lost his job—or because he hates the weather. But when that same alcoholic gets a job . . . a better-paying job and/or moves to where the weather is great . . . the probability is that alcoholic will still continue drinking or start drinking again, and the disease will still progress and the drinking will get worse. “Stuff” happens. “Stuff” does not cause alcoholism.

When alcoholics get sober and go to A.A. on a regular basis, they learn to replace that knee-jerk reaction of picking up a drink or a chemical for stress-relief—and replacing it with “taking it to a meeting” and talking about it. And by the Grace of God, it relieves it. A way is found to deal with it.

One more thing: when an alcoholic has, alongside the alcoholism, a psychiatric illness (like clinical depression) they may initially only drink to relieve the clinical depression—and they may receive temporary relief from it because they drank. But, and this is a big “but”—when they drink even for that reason . . . it gets and keeps the disease-of-alcoholism process going.

And even if that particular cycle of clinical depression “lets up” for awhile because of the temporary relief of the alcohol, the alcoholic drinking usually continues, because the alcoholism has its own dynamic and is itself progressive. It gets to exists alongside, in addition to, the psychiatric illness.

And if the alcoholism is not treated for itself and the drinking does not stop (even if the psychiatric illness is treated with medication and therapy) then two things usually happen:

A) intaking alcohol when the medicine is in the body usually makes the medicine less effective

B) the alcoholism follows a progressive course and continues to eventually make that person’s life worse on just about every level, if not all levels. And it usually continues to make that psychiatric illness worse, too.

“If a person with both psychiatric illness and alcoholism wants to get better, they usually have to get help for both problems.”

If a person with both psychiatric illness and alcoholism wants to get better, they usually have to get help for both problems—and that help is often found in an alcoholism treatment center (one that is A.A.-oriented) that is good at diagnosing and treating persons with both addiction and psychiatric illness. And after initial treatment is completed, ongoing counseling, as well as A.A., of course—is usually the prescribed course of treatment.

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Miracles Happen: Wine into Water

January 30, 2013 in In the News, Real People, Real Stories, Recovery Books, Recovery Music by jherzanek | Permalink

Some things are just “meant to be”

Singer T. Graham Brown and Narrator J.D. Hart

Narrator J.D.Hart surprises Country Singer T. Graham Brown with recovery book featuring his hit songWine into Water.

Miracles Happen: Wine into Water
~By Judy Herzanek

Several years ago as we were updating “Why Don’t They Just Quit?” for our second printing I stumbled upon a music video that immediately cut to my heart. As soon as I heard it, it literally became part of me. I knew right away that the lyrics needed to be shared with our readers. “Wine into Water” was added to Part 4: Life in Recovery.

Several months ago, (December 2012) as we were preparing our Audio version of “Why Don’t They Just Quit?” I received a message from our talented narrator J.D. Hart. He told me: “Last night I was finishing up Part 4 and I suddenly had to stop my narration. I got a bit choked up when I was in the middle of the Wine into Water lyrics. You see, the song is very emotional to me as I “watched” T. go through some very tough times.”

As J.D. told me this, I pondered the way God works to bring about healing from very bad situations, the way he connects people at just the right moment and literally orchestrates events in our lives—working behind the scenes.

J.D. then told me he would be spending some time with T. in January and that he would love to surprise him with an autographed book and a copy of our new Audio CD (which J.D. so beautifully narrates for us).

Thank you T. for touching hearts and sharing your story—to give hope to so many families struggling with the powerful grip of addiction. You have been blessed to be a blessing.

Country Singer T. Graham Brown sings "Wine into Water."

 

 

 

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Amazing Recovery Music: Wine into Water, by T. Graham Brown

January 30, 2013 in In the News, Recovery Books, Recovery Music by jherzanek | Permalink

Amazing Recovery Music: Wine into Water

~by T. Graham Brown

Country Singer T. Graham Brown sings "Wine into Water."Several years ago as we were updating “Why Don’t They Just Quit?” for our second printing I stumbled upon a music video that immediately cut to my heart. As soon as I heard it, it literally became part of me. I knew right away that the lyrics needed to be shared with our readers. The lyrics to “Wine into Water” were added to Part 4: Life in Recovery.

Scroll to bottom for link to this entire story of how God has been working “behind the scenes” ~Judy Herzanek

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Wine into Water (lyrics)

You’ve heard a multitude of prayers on my behalf
I pray one more is not too much to ask
I’ve tried to fight this battle by myself
But it’s a war that I can’t win without Your help

Tonight, I’m as low as any man can go
I’m down and I can’t fall much farther
And once upon a time, You turned the water into wine
An’ now, on my knees, I’m turning to You, Father
Could You help me turn the wine back into water?

So many times I’ve hurt the ones I love
I pushed them to the edge of giving up
They’ve stood by me but how much can they stand
If I don’t put this bottle in Your hands?

Chorus

Tonight, I’m as low as any man can go
I’m down and I can’t fall much farther
And once upon a time, You turned the water into wine
An’ now, on my knees, I’m turning to You, Father
Could You help me turn the wine back into water?

I shook my fist at heaven for all the hell that I’ve been through
Now I’m begging for forgiveness and a miracle from You

‘Cause tonight, I’m as low as any man can go
I’m down and I can’t fall much farther
And once upon a time, You turned the water into wine
An’ now, on my knees, I’m turning to You, Father
Could You help me turn the wine back into water?

~ T. Graham Brown

Singer T. Graham Brown and Narrator J.D. Hart

Narrator J.D.Hart surprises Singer T. Graham Brown with recovery book featuring his song lyrics “Wine into Water.”

More about T. Graham Brown:

There is only one T. Graham Brown, and his uniqueness has made him one of the most enduringly popular singers performing today. He is a journeyman and songwriter whose blue-eyed soul sound defies musical boundaries.

He has penned several hit country songs and has garnered twelve Top-Ten hits, a CMA Award and a long list of national radio and television jingles including; Coca-Cola, McDonalds, Budweiser, Ford Trucks, Harrah’s Casinos and 7-Up.

He has earned recognition in the Commercial Hall of fame in Chicago as the face and voice of Taco Bell’s “Run For The Border” campaign for four continuous years

Over the years T. Graham Brown struggled with an alcohol problem. During this time he co-wrote “Wine Into Water,” a gripping, deeply personal song about his dealing with his problem. The song sat on the shelf for years. When he finally performed the tune it became a personal favorite as fans told him their own stories of battles with alcoholism.

In 1998, “Wine Into Water” not only inspired the lives of countless individuals but went all the way to the top of the Christian Country Music chart and was awarded the number one independent music video of the year.

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“You get to the point where you ask, ‘Are you sucking on the bottle or is it sucking on you?’ It was sucking on me. It was sucking my self-esteem, pride, confidence and everything. I woke up one day and I was a mess.”
~T. Graham Brown (Read more of T’s story)

J.D. Hart, narrator

 

 

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A Mother Reflects on Her Daughter’s Addiction

December 5, 2012 in Al-Anon Related. . ., Guest Blog Posts, Meth, Real People, Real Stories by jherzanek | Permalink

Real People, Real Stories:

Mother reflects on daughter's addiction

Many thanks to our good friend Cathy Taughinbaugh
for sharing her story with us.
As she says, “There is always hope.”

A Mother Reflects on Her Daughter’s Addiction
~ by Cathy Taughinbaugh

“I got the job!”

I had to pause and take a breath as I thought about my daughter’s words. I was thrilled that she had been hired for a new job and was now moving to northern California close to home after six years.

This hasn’t always been the case for my daughter.

I clearly remember the day when I discovered that my daughter was a crystal meth addict. She would not show me her arms because they were riddled with needle marks.

I was devastated.

She started out life as a typical little girl growing up in a suburban neighborhood in northern California. She excelled in school during her elementary years.

It was during middle school that I noticed her grades starting to slip a bit. She had many friends, tried different activities to participate in and seemed well adjusted.

Her first two years of high school went smoothly. She joined the water polo and swim team and made some close friends. I knew most of her friends’ parents.

The last two years of high school were a bit more rocky. Not dramatically, but we noticed. She kept her curfew, many of her friends remained the same, although there were a few news ones that made me a bit curious and concerned.

“It wasn’t long before things started to fall apart.”

Her father and I prodded her onward and encouraged her to do better, monitored her whereabouts, and tried to be on top of all that was going on. Graduation came and went.

She left one August morning on the flight to Colorado to start her life as a college student. It wasn’t long before things started to fall apart.

She was on probation after her first semester and needed to attend summer school after her first year to remain enrolled.

After the fall semester of her sophomore year, she was done. She could not continue her undisclosed drug habit and remain a student.

I flew back to see what I could do. We had paid a few rent checks because after taking a part time job, she was also unable to continue working.

“I know now. I was in denial.”

The rug was pulled out from under me when she finally admitted she was addicted to drugs. I should have known, and wondered why I didn’t know.

I know now. I was in denial.

She made a good choice at that moment in Colorado. She made the choice to come home with me. She made the choice to make a change and find a better way to live.

Within one week she was on a plane to Utah to attend a Wilderness program for five weeks, and then on to Southern California where she was in treatment for another three months and in a sober living home for six months.

After leaving the program, she remained in southern California, and has lived in apartments with amazing young women from her program. Several remain close friends.

Her program included getting a job and/or attending college. She did both and graduated from a local state university in 2009. A part time job in a grocery store helped pay expenses while going back to school.

“I felt the shame of addiction.”

She worked full time at the store until she found her present job in advertising.

She is now ready to come home to live closer to her family.

Being addicted is not what any mom dreams for her child. This is the last thing I expected. The emotional exhaustion sends you down a devastating path and it is a challenge to find your way back. The financial costs took my breath away.

As a parent we had the weekly calls from the wilderness camp, the weekly reports from her treatment center. I tried counseling, A-Alanon and Naranon in my efforts to find support.

I thought about who I would tell. I felt the shame of addiction. I also felt guilty, frustrated, angry and afraid.

“She has come full circle.”

My daughter has come full circle. She is now mature beyond her years. She is insightful and has embraced a spiritual component to her life. In some ways, my daughter’s past is invisible.

She has moved on with her life, and doesn’t discuss her past often. She knows, however that life can be hard due to poor choices and the disease of addiction. She also knows that there is always hope.

She realized that her life could change when she was ready to dig deep, overcome her fear and take on the challenge to begin again.

 

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Bio: Cathy Taughinbaugh is the mother of a former crystal meth addict.
She writes on addiction, recovery and treatment at Treatment Talk.org

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AA Wisdom: “Don’t take yourself so damn seriously!”

October 26, 2012 in AA Related, The Wisdom of the Rooms by jherzanek | Permalink

The Wisdom of the Rooms

AA Wisdom: “Don’t take yourself so damn seriously!”

So many people who call Changing Lives Foundation feel like they are all alone in their struggles. Our best advice to those who have limited resources is to visit an Open AA meeting or two, attend an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meeting. There , you will find others with concerns, similar to yours. Many of these people offer gems of wisdom just like this—one of our favorites:

AA Wisdom: “Don’t take yourself so damn seriously!”
~ by Michael Z.

When I came into the program, everything was a big deal, and I was very serious. My finances, my future, my wreaked relationships – everything was overwhelming. I remember attending meetings and hearing the laughter and thinking, “What’s so damn funny? The only reason we’re here is because our lives suck!” It took me quite a while before I could join in with that laughter, and the moment I did my life began to change.

As I got further into the program, that sense of impending doom began to dissipate, and I felt like I could breathe again. The secrets and shame I had hidden so long began to come out, and as I shared what was inside me with others, I began to feel lighter. I began to laugh more at myself and with others, and I finally began to feel human and a part of again. Most of all, I started to realize what was truly important.

Today I know that the future will take care of itself if I take care of today. I now have faith that there is a God working in my life and that even if things don’t go my way, that’s not only OK, it often turns out for the better. Today, money isn’t as important as relationships, and the only thing that really matters is health and sobriety.

Today I’ve learned to live life on life’s terms and, most of all, not to take myself so damn seriously.

 

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Drug Addiction Among University Students

October 16, 2012 in College Drug Addiction, Guest Blog Posts, In the News, Prescription Drug Addiction by jherzanek | Permalink

Drug Addiction Among University Students

Drug Addiction Among University Students:
Is Drug Addiction Among University Students Destroying USA’s Future?

~by Guest Blogger Lily McCann

Use of legal and illegal drugs among University students is increasing at an alarming pace. According to statistics from The United Nations, the United States is the biggest drug market in the world. One reason behind this is extensive use of drugs at universities in the United States.

Reasons Behind Increasing Drug Addiction Among University Students
The main reason behind these alarming numbers is the use of prescription drugs, marijuana and cocaine by university students. Even though prescription drugs are legitimate, they may have long-term negative impacts on individuals. Students who disclosed using prescription drugs in order to improve their level of concentration were more frequently found to have used illicit drugs in universities as compared to those students who had not used prescription stimulants previously.

The reasons for drug use differ among individuals. Currently, the most common reason for drug use and abuse among students is to improve academic performance; this is the reason why an increase in illicit drug use is observed during exam times.

Recent Trends in Drug Abuse
According to national epidemiological studies, there has been a significant rise in the use of illicit drugs in US universities and colleges. Individuals within the age group of 18–29 tend to use more than any other age group–leading to an alarming rate of prescription drug addiction among young adults.

Influences of Drug Abuse on Students’ Lives
The future of our country depends upon our youth. Prescription drug addiction among our university students is a major threat.

  • Effects on Academic Progress
    Even though the motive behind using drugs in universities is to improve academic progress, students do not realize that drug use defeats this purpose. The consumption of stimulant drugs causes an increase in the level of certain hormones in the brain, which can make an individual feel more confident. With repeated use however, an individual’s body starts depending upon these external triggers to function properly. Therefore, the academic performance of the student declines as their drug use turns into addiction.
  • Effects on Social Life
    When individuals addicted to drugs are kept away from drugs even for short periods of time they showcase certain symptoms, including depression, aggression and other common drug-seeking behavioral changes. Many of those conditions push individuals into isolation (either willingly or they are pushed aside by society due to unacceptable behavior). Drug addicted students stop interacting with their peers. Drug addiction also causes lack of self esteem and happiness.
  • Effects on Personal Development
    Psychological effects of drug addiction can include aggressive behavior, lack of rationalization and lack of motivation. These factors influence the overall development of a student’s personality; these factors become a hindrance to building a prosperous life and career. Drug abusing individuals find themselves incapable of finding and keeping a job and handling stress. If and when they do become employed they often remain unable to socialize within the work or home environments.

Fighting Drug Addiction at Universities
Despite efforts from university personnel and law enforcement, this problem is not going away anytime soon. Accessible addiction treatment programs for university students is one suggested way to deal with the problem. Read more about this approach in the book “A Guide to Substance Abuse Services for Primary Care Clinicians”. According to this approach, each individual is screened separately and an in-depth assessment is administered in order to devise highly effective specialized treatment.

There are a number of initiatives for fighting drug addiction among university students. For even more information on addiction visit http://www.kwikmed.org/20-inspirational-drug-information-resources/ where this blog (Changing Lives Foundation) is also listed.

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Relapse. It Happens.

. . . but it doesn’t have to be the end of the road.

This article excerpted from the award-winning book “Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.” by Joe Herzanek

Is Relapse Part of Recovery?
Addiction has been called a chronic relapsing disease. Relapse is when the person in recovery chooses to try some controlled using again after attempting to remain abstinent. We know that addicts/alcoholics can’t control substance use. If they could, they wouldn’t be in this situation in the first place. Relapse is one more failed attempt at trying to control how much they are able to use.

Using a substance occasionally and in moderation isn’t a problem for social drinkers. But once someone crosses over to habitual and uncontrolled use, there is no going back. Attempts to regain control—to use alcohol or drugs socially and occasionally—are common, and these attempts lead to relapses. Statistics show that approximately 90 percent of those who complete treatment will have a relapse—sometimes referred to as a slip.


Five months after leaving treatment in April, I tried just one more time to see if I could control my using. I went out with an old friend and drank.

I don’t remember if I called Gary or he called me. Gary and I used to take drugs together. He was a good friend. We had known each other since high school. He knew I had quit, but he didn’t know much about recovery. We hadn’t seen each other for months, since before I had gone to the treatment center. We went out to a bar. I don’t think I had any intention of drinking. After an hour or two of playing pool and being in the midst of a crowd of people who were drinking, I ordered a beer. To this day, I don’t know what I was thinking. After five or six beers, I knew I had screwed up.

I wasn’t nearly as wasted as I wanted to be. What now? Be- cause of everything I had heard in recovery groups, I now felt a tremendous sense of guilt. Why did I let this happen? Looking back on it, I can see that it was a chain of events. Talking with Gary, meet- ing him at a bar, staying and playing pool—all the sights, sounds and smells were too much for me in the beginning of my sobriety. A bad idea. Those few drinks did not give me the effect I craved. I realized that it was going to take much more than a few drinks. I didn’t want that old life back and it became obvious to me that I had to make an all or nothing choice.

It was just one night, but that one night motivated me to get right back to working on my recovery. This would fall into the category of a slip—one stupid decision that was brief and over quickly. I guess I just had to test the water one more time. What this experience did was confirm to me that my addiction was real. I felt like an idiot. I had just blown one hundred fifty days of sobriety, and I didn’t even enjoy it.

Having a few drinks had always been the start of trouble for me. I knew I had to come to my senses right away, or I would soon be looking for drugs as well. This small slip would end up as a complete return to full-blown using, or I could end it that night. By this time in my recovery, I had learned enough to know what was happening and what the consequences could be. I must have had a moment of clarity. No- body needed to tell me that I’d screwed up. Going back to the old life was the last thing I wanted.

I wasn’t sure what to do, so I decided to go back to my treatment center for a couple of days to sort this out.

I have heard similar stories from others who have relapsed. Many of them remember that exact, pivotal moment when they were faced with the decision of what to do. Here are the two different trains of thought that can occur to an addict after a relapse. I’ve blown it anyway, so I may as well keep using for a while. Or, This was a dumb idea. I’d better get right back to recovery before it gets much worse. Thankfully, the latter was my thinking.

Ways to Avoid Relapse
Developing relationships with others who are facing the same challenges are very important. A couple of close friends, a sponsor, a mentor—any one of these—can help hold a person accountable. I knew I had let some people down. But these same people were able to encourage me to keep moving forward.


One of the results of an addict spending time with people in recovery is that it will ruin their once seemingly gratifying relationship with alcohol and drug use. Those in recovery learn about the disease, and from that point on they know too much about its power to ever enjoy it the way they used to. They know that there’s no going back. If some- one slips, they often feel the way I did—like an idiot for even trying to enjoy it again. But this is all okay, as we all learn from mistakes like this. Family and friends shouldn’t get too discouraged when someone slips, because it’s common in early recovery. Look at it as one more opportunity for your loved one to become convinced that the addiction is indeed real.

My friend and addiction counselor Larry Weckbaugh in Eagle, CO compares recovery to a series of stairs—and landings in-between the flights. The addict might be up three flights and two landings when they relapse. They don’t fall into the basement; they only go down one floor.

Is there a difference between a slip and a relapse?
Sort of. The difference lies in how a person handles it. . .

This article is excerpted (pg. 187) from the 2010 revised and updated book
“Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

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September 25, 2012 by jherzanek | 4 comments

What is a Pink Cloud?

September 14, 2012 in AA Related, Al-Anon Related. . ., Ask Joe, Denial, Why Don't They Just Quit? Book Excerpts by jherzanek | 1 comment

 

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Q: What is a Pink Cloud? What does the term “pink cloud” mean?

“I fell off my pink cloud with a thud.”
~Elizabeth Taylor

A. Being “on a Pink Cloud” means to feel almost like being high, but without using drugs or alcohol.

The first few days or weeks in recovery are normally a time of adjustment for the addict’s body and mind. Early recovery can be a roller coaster of emotions—often frustrating and stressful. After this will come a leveling-out period in which many people will have an almost euphoric feeling, sometimes referred to as a “pink cloud.”

This ah-ha experience can last for days or even weeks—I really have this recovery thing figured out; I can do this!

I remember feeling this way myself. It was almost like a natural high. But the addict should be careful not to think that he or she is cured, because this could lead to another try at controlled using (i.e., a slip or relapse).

Five months after leaving treatment I tried some controlled using. For me this verified that I indeed was addicted, and I quickly got back to working on my recovery.

A person in recovery can almost plan on experiencing a pink cloud, but the ensuing relapse doesn’t have to happen.

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>How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling the truth?

>”I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in Fiance’s need to get drunk every night.”

>Should my husband “back off?”

>Gambling vs. Drug Addiction? What is your opinion?

>How can I tell if someone is an addict/alcoholic or just a heavy user?

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Vicodin Addiction: Prescription Abuse
~by guest blogger Alex Kerwin

Vicodin Addiction: Prescription Abuse
Vicodin is a synthetic opiate created in a laboratory. Similar to morphine, its primary use is to control moderate to severe pain. Since the medication works on pain-receptors in the brain and produces a feeling of euphoria and well-being, Vicodin is frequently a drug of choice for substance abuse. In 2010, over 130 million prescriptions were written for Vicodin, and related medications. Consequently, opiate addiction has surged with over 10 million Americans self-reporting prescription medication abuse. Increasing awareness of prescription addiction with education and alternatives in treatment are paramount. Vicodin addiction is an epidemic in the USA, and people with substance abuse issues should not feel alone or stigmatized when seeking treatment.

How Addiction Begins
Initially, people are prescribed Vicodin for pain, usually after injury or surgery. During the recovery process, Vicodin is taken on a regular basis and the brain begins to experience a “good feeling,” or a state of euphoria. In response, the brain makes less “good chemicals,” on its own, and relies on the Vicodin to supply these chemicals. Unfortunately, when Vicodin is discontinued, the brain continues to create less “feel good” chemicals, and the person may experience depression and withdrawal.

Increased Tolerance and Dosage
Addiction will drive the person to increase the amount of Vicodin to create the feelings of well-being as the tolerance to the drug increases. People with addiction will take dangerously high dosages of the drug and risk liver and kidney damage, as well as overdose and death. It is not uncommon for addicted persons to seek several doctors and visit hospital emergency rooms as a response for the brain’s increased demand of the drug.

Signs of Withdrawal
Once the use of Vicodin is stopped, many addicted individuals will experience an overwhelming psychic desire for the drug. In addition, withdrawal is accompanied by dreadful feelings of impending doom, physical aches and pains, nausea and vomiting, and deep depression with suicidal thoughts. Depending on the extent of the addiction, it is dangerous for people to attempt detoxification from the substance without supervision and they are strongly encouraged to seek professional assistance.

Help from Treatment Centers
In 2009, over 11 million people received treatment for substance abuse and addiction. As awareness of substance dependence increases in society, treatment centers are being recognized as important resources and assistance in addiction recovery. Using an approach of the psychological and physical needs of the individual, treatment focuses not only on the cessation of the drug, but provides coping strategies on restoring the individual to their former selves. The ultimate goal of substance abuse treatment returns people to productive functioning in the family, workplace, school, and the community.

Addiction can be Treated Successfully
As with all chronic disease, addiction can be managed successfully. Treatments centers provide powerful strategies for living a healthy and productive life without drug dependence. According to researchers, most people that enter treatment have positive outcomes and refrain from substance abuse.

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August 18, 2012 by jherzanek | 1 comment

All Those AA Meetings: What he’ll hear when he goes to those AA meetings

August 8, 2012 in AA Related, Al-Anon Related. . ., Getting Them Sober, Recovery Books by jherzanek | 4 comments

~written by Toby Drews, author, “Getting Them Sober”
Posted with permission.

FAMILIES OF ALCOHOLICS WANT TO KNOW
“WHAT HE’LL HEAR WHEN HE GOES TO THOSE A.A. MEETINGS.”

What is often underlying that question is the fear that no one will tell him how serious this disease is . . . that no one will tell him that he must go to A.A. meetings a lot . . . that no one will tell him that he must stop drinking—and stay stopped.

What he’ll most probably hear from the old timers in A.A meetings:

1.) ”Don’t drink if your rear-end falls off. And if it falls off, put it in a basket and take it to a meeting.”

2.) ”Meeting-makers make it”—almost all relapses occur because people stopped going to meetings.

(Even if the speaker says he ‘slipped’ and doesn’t say why—if you ask the person privately after the A.A. meeting, ”did you stop going to meetings?” the response is almost always ‘yes’).

3.) What’s dangerous about “slips” (relapses)? As the old timers will tell the newcomer, ”you know you have another drunk in you, but you don’t know if you have another recovery in you” (i.e., you may feel like you can ‘slip and slide’ and go in and out of A.A. at will—and that ”a little slip that only lasts a short time doesn’t really count”).

But one day, the way this disease works, you probably will lose the choice and won’t be able to go back even if you want to. In other words, each ‘slip’, no matter ‘how long’ or ‘how short’, is akin to playing Russian Roulette with your life.

IT’S EASIER TO STAY SOBER—THAN TO GET SOBER.

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This article, “All Those AA Meetings: What he’ll hear when he goes to those AA meetings” is from Toby Drews’ “Getting Them Sober” newsletter. Click here to sign up: http://www.gettingthemsober.com/newsletter.html

What is “Getting Them Sober”?
“Getting Them Sober”, by Toby Rice Drews, is the million-selling series of books—endorsed by ‘Dear Abby’, by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, and by Melody Beattie (author of ”Codependent No More” who wrote, ”Getting Them Sober’ is the BEST book for the family of the still-drinking alcoholic”).

How are the books different from each other?  What are the table of contents in each of the books? 

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