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 Children of Addicts

JoeHerzanek

Q: If both parents are addicts, does that
increase the child’s chances of addiction?


A. There is a fifty-fifty chance.

The more alcoholics there are in a family, the higher the odds of passing along this addiction. In fact, when both parents have had substance abuse issues, the odds are 50/50 that their children will as well—should they decide to experiment with alcohol or drugs.

So what does that mean? In a case where both parents have a problem, with the odds at 50/50, will half of the kids become addicts? Not necessarily. This is an average. But it does mean the likelihood of becoming dependent is very high. Knowing this can help families recognize warning signs earlier rather than later. Depending on their maturity level, children and teenagers may decide to wait until early adulthood to begin experimentation (or, they may decide not to start at all).

Parents and other family members with such histories can consider how to help their children avoid developing a substance abuse problem. It is also a good idea for them to educate their children as to what is likely to happen if they are not on their guard. Knowing the dangers, facts, and warning signs of addiction is helpful, especially for those with a genetic predisposition. If we can get these kids to even delay trying drugs or alcohol, it will help to lessen their chances of falling into a life of dependency. Many research studies show that the later someone waits to start using, the less likely they are to become dependent.

Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe HerzanekThis “Q & A with Joe Herzanek” is excerpted from Part 5 of “Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

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Eye on Addiction Radio
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Children of Addicts:
The Innocent Victims

Guest: David Meggitt
Program manager, Betty Ford Colorado Children’s program

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In 2011, we had the honor of sitting in on a portion of the Betty Ford Children’s Program. Needless to say, we were very impressed. Our guest David Meggitt has a genuine passion for children of addicts and alcoholics and has made this his life’s work. Listen to David, along with our very special guests Denise and her son Matthew as they tell their story and give hope to others.
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“My son Matthew and I are glad to help and hope his story reaches someone. This is the episode of Nick News he was on. It won an Emmy. Such a powerful message! Thank for letting him share it.

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“I want kids to know it’s not easy when your parent drinks and uses drugs but you can make good choices and you can love your parent and hate the addiction.  I want kids to really understand it’s not their fault and that they don’t have to follow their parent’s footsteps.”


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CO Springs GazetteBetty Ford program helps Springs kids cope with addicted parents
He was only 8 years old, but already, he’d been suspended from school for five days. He rarely smiled, and the slightest little aggravation would send him into a rage. Someone warned his mother that one day, he’d end up hurting her.
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Real People, Real Stories:

I will never
take for granted . . .

“I will never take for granted what my youngest boy’s hair smells like fresh out of the shower, PJ’d up and ready for bed at night. Those little things make bad days easier.”

We’ve been emailing a wonderful–and very wise woman who just celebrated 9 years of sobriety! She goes by the name of “DC13″ and with permission we share some of her recent thoughts.

It’s the little details in life that we sometimes take for granted that really end up meaning the most especially when they are taken away from us. The wonderful thing is that recovery does happen and lives are changed. Read on. . .

I went to jail 9 years ago yesterday (11th) so today…November 12, 2009…is my 9 year clean date……and let’s just say it’s been quite a roller coaster ride! I personally don’t call where I am as recovered or in recovery….addiction is part of what I am….my sister is diabetic, so she has things that she has to do every single day to make sure that she stays safe and stays alive…..same thing with me…just a different disease ya know. AA is great; as well as NA….personally I think a 12 Step program is very important because it makes you actually work out what makes you tick….but all any of these are is for support…they give the tools to learn to build a “new house” …..but it’s totally up to each person if they choose to build a mansion…..or haphazardly piece together a shack that will blow over with the first spit of wind.

‘Why don’t you just quit?’ was a regular question around my life for about 20 years….I get to put my kids to bed at night now….and know that I’ll get to do again tomorrow… I will never take for granted what my youngest boys hair smells like fresh out of the shower and p.j.’d up and ready for bed at night…those little things make bad days easier.

God…..I know what kind of places and circumstances I put myself in….for me it wasn’t A.A. but it was a 12 step program….helped me learn to help myself…..and introduced me to other people that would be less likely to believe my crap and would help to call me on it when I started spouting it…..accountability is an absolute necessity!

Cure…..don’t believe it…don’t buy it….never heard of it…..had to learn to live in spite of the disease that I have……not let the disease live in spite of me…..I am and will always be an addict…..if I ever for one minute forget that, or become complacent about that or I will once again fall. I work very hard every day to not let that happen….and for 9 years now I have not let my disease be the boss.
But that’s just me.

Thanks DC13!

 

Why Don't They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery." by Joe Herzanek
Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

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> Audio Book CD, MP3 (NEW!)

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> Audible Audio Download (LISTEN TO 4 MIN. SAMPLE)


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Addiction Recovery Resources for Families of Substance Abusers, Addicts and Alcoholics


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>How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling the truth?

>”I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in Fiance’s need to get drunk every night.”

>Should my husband “back off?”

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