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Illegal Bath Salts

Illegal Bath Salts

January 24, 2011
News Summary

Alarming numbers of adolescents and others are ending up in emergency rooms and mental hospitals after using ”fake cocaine” — a powder legally sold as bath salts, The Sacramento Bee reported Jan. 18.

The so-called bath salts are not common brands, but instead specially-made powders that are sold in convenience stores and specialty shops in half-gram bottles for about $25 to $30. Users snort them, smoke them, or inject them like cocaine to experience euphoria.

However, they can cause “paranoia, chest pains, and irregular heartbeats,” the Bee reported.
Continue reading Specialty ‘Bath Salts’ Linked to Hospitalizations, Suicides . . .

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rockstaryoMy name is Jaimie and I’m an addict. I found “In The Rooms” when it was just starting out. I was sick in active addiction, and was pretending to go to Narcotics Anonymous meetings. I was really going and getting high, but saying I was going to meetings bought me time.

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Jim Fay

Jim Fay

As one of our favorite authors, we highly recommend Jim Fay and Foster Cline’s  bookParenting Teens With Love And Logic

Little Cleo looked out of the corner of her eye at her Mom with one of those testing looks, then pushed her child sized grocery cart into the legs of her sister.

“Quit that,” warned Mom. “I’ve warned you about that three times already. If you do it again I’m going to take it away!”

Three minutes later Cleo was doing it again.

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Is an addict ever cured?IS AN ADDICT EVER CURED?
~ by Joe Herzanek

In today’s world in which more and more information is readily available, there seems to be more and more confusion regarding the topic of an “Addiction Cure.” Is there a cure for addiction? Some people would argue quite convincingly that there is.

I will point out that “even quitting use completely, for many years—does not mean that someone is cured.

You’ll probably read or hear information on this topic with various points of view. The concept of an addict who has been clean for years and years—not being cured—is a tough one to comprehend.

I recently received this letter (below) from a reader who presents his point of view. Please read it and then read my response to him. I believe you may hear and learn to discern some of the more subtle differences and truths regarding this baffling disease of addiction.
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January 18, 2011 by jherzanek | 2 comments

Getting Them Sober

Reprinted from the AOL-lauded  www.GettingThemSober.com website. Article copyrighted by Toby Rice Drews, author, the “Getting Them Sober” books.

IF ALCOHOLICS STOP GOING TO AA

I get so many phone calls from people saying “Yeah, he’s been to AA before, and he went for a week or two, or a month or so, and then he started slacking off meetings.” Now usually when they start doing that, it’s when they start feeling better. It gets to the point for many people that they start feeling really good (the program starts working), and unfortunately, instead of wanting more of it, they think they “got it,” and they don’t think they have to go to as many meetings. And so the problem is that they start doing other stuff because they feel good. They want to play “catch-up” — catch up their lives because of all the time they wasted.

And it looks good to the family. It fools everybody. It fools the alcoholic, it fools the family.
(to read the entire article: If Alcoholics Stop Going to AA)

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January 3, 2011 by jherzanek | No comments

Dear Changing Lives,

Thank you for your quick action on the billing and the response in receiving the book.  I received the book in less than 24 hours and sat down immediately and read it.

I had NO idea what was happening to my daughter in-law and had constant tears for the last week.   After reading the book I went to bed with some peace of mind and hope last night.
Thank you again.

~ MJ in Fort Collins, CO

 


“I received your book today in the mail, I curled up on the couch by the fire and read it cover to cover. I just finished, and feel I can now face 2011 with a new optimism. A HUGE thank you to you both!”

~ Optimistic Mom (Whitesboro, NY)

And another from Julie—a  reader and participant on our Facebook and Blog Page:

“please feel free to use my full name. I’ve found that being transparent about all of this is very freeing, plus it helps other people in some way. I love it when I can share my experience with others & see how it helps them.

Wanted to share that I told a fellow Nar-Anon dad about your book & your philosophy about raising the bottom. He said it gave him the courage to kick his 23-year old daughter out when she got high on Christmas Day & caused a huge problem when they were hosting family.

Three days later, she called them from a detox hospital…that SHE had checked herself into! A great start . . . thank you both for letting me share about your book & how it has helped me!!!”

~ Julie Jordan-Wade (Coppell, TX)

We love to hear from everyone. Our best to you all!

~Joe and Judy

Joe and Judy Herzanek, Changing Lives Foundation

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Joe Herzanek gives Keynote Address at Co. Springs Drug Court GraduationOn Wednesday, October 20, 2010 Changing Lives Foundation/Joe Herzanek was honored to have the privilege of conducting the Keynote Address for the Adult Drug Treatment Court Graduation in Colorado Springs, CO.

During his address, Joe spoke of his (often humorous) past experiences, displaying a large “before photo” of himself, and ended the ceremony by leading the group in an emotional “pledge” —first recited by the new graduates, and followed by friends and family (see below). We have reprinted the feature article on this event that appeared recently in the Colorado Springs Gazette.

We received many great comments regarding the keynote address by Joe Herzanek at our Drug Court graduation ceremony. The attendees related to Mr. Herzanek’s personal experience on the road to addiction recovery and were encouraged by his long term success.  He made them laugh at some of his (and their) choices, and reached them with down to earth examples that hit home with their recovery challenges. We were pleased to have Joe speak at our graduation and hope to have him back again.

~ Marilyn Burnett/Program Manager: Adult Drug Treatment Court State of Colorado 4th Judicial District Court, Division 5L

Second chances: Drug Court helps people turn lives around

November 27, 2010
Barbara Cotter/The Gazette Photos by Mark Reis, The Gazette

Deanna Simmons chokes up as she grabs the microphone in the jury room of the Fourth Judicial District courthouse, but who can blame her? This is her night to graduate from Drug Court, and it represents a huge step in mending the life she shattered with her meth addiction.

“In this room, I had supervised visits with my son,” the 40-year-old woman tells a roomful of other Drug Court participants and their families. “Now, I get to take him home with me.”

The crowd applauds as Simmons returns to her seat and hugs her 12-year-old son and her mother.

It’s another success story for Drug Court, an 11-year-old program for people facing their first-ever felony drug charge. It relies on a team of two psychotherapists, two probation officers, a prosecutor from the District Attorney’s office and Magistrate Lisa Kirkman to assess the offenders’ issues and needs, equip them with a “toolbox” of coping strategies and plug them into services to help them get clean and stay that way.

“We wrap ’em up in services,” Kirkman says.

As of Oct. 19, 624 people had successfully completed the program, representing a graduation rate of about 76 percent. The graduates are rewarded with dismissal of the charge that got them into Drug Court in the first place. If they can stay clean for two years after graduation and undergo aftercare for the first of those two years, they can even get their records sealed.

But the biggest reward goes beyond their status with the legal system. They leave with a sense of accomplishment, higher self-esteem, a much healthier body, a set of coping tools and the prospect of a rosier future, the Drug Court team says.

“It’s changed my life,” says 32-year-old Bonnie Norris, a habitual meth user and mother of an 11-year-old daughter. “My goals are to graduate, stay sober, raise my daughter without drugs, move up in my job and get my GED.” She eventually wants to be a crime scene investigator.

Four “strikes” allowed

For Simmons, Norris and the 120 or so others in the program at any given time, Kirkman’s courtroom is a place of second chances. And third.

And even more.

Joe Herzanek displays "before" photo at Co. Springs Drug Court Graduation

Joe Herzanek displays "before" photo at Co. Springs Drug Court Graduation

We never lose hope in Drug Court,” says Kirkman.

Magistrate Lisa Kirkman claps for the 100 days of sobriety for Drug Court participant Kathrin Bueche Wednesday, October 20, 2010.

Magistrate Lisa Kirkman claps for the 100 days of sobriety for Drug Court participant Kathrin Bueche Wednesday, October 20, 2010.

Most participants can finish the program in a year as they pass through three phases that require several commitments: random drug tests, meetings with probation officers, regularly scheduled court appearances and the presentation of a “life plan” after the last phase.

They’re allowed up to four “strikes” — mistakes — in the first two phases, and one in the third.

Even that isn’t hard and fast, however, because the DA can combine strikes “and give more opportunity to people,” Kirkman says.

“I had five strikes in my first three weeks. I wasn’t taking it seriously,” says 25-year-old Chelsea Oubre, who expects to be in the next group of graduates.

“I kept using. I went back to jail.”

Jail is the consequence for the more egregious violations, such as a missed or “hot” urinalysis tests.

Other violations, such as missing a treatment group, might bring a requirement for public service and electronic home monitoring.

“One of the reasons Drug Court works is that consequences for behavior are immediate and swift,” the program material states.

But Kirkman says the strike system isn’t front and center in the program.

“It’s not so focused on strikes as it is on accountability, honesty and success,” she says.

Ironically, Kirkman was once known as “lock ’em up Lisa,” a reference to her success rate as a prosecutor, which included the prosecution of many drug crimes.

She helped launch Drug Court in 1999 and served as prosecutor, then was appointed magistrate.

She left the position for two years to go back to the DA’s Office, but then returned to being magistrate.

“I really like to see people changing their lives; I like to be part of the solution,” says Kirkman, who has four children, including a set of twins.

And so she goes to extraordinary lengths to keep these first-time drug offenders out of lockup, and she does it with a velvet hammer.

Her courtroom is a place where applause breaks out at any piece of good news. Oubre announces she’s pregnant.

Applause.

One man says he’s been drug-free for 10 months.

Applause.

Someone else has come up with productive ways to combat the boredom that would ordinarily have sent him running for a high.

More applause.

But it’s not just the supportive atmosphere of Kirkman’s courtroom that sets it apart from many others. It’s her approach — part concerned

mother, part savvy social worker, part humorist, part cheerleader, part stern but loving teacher — that she uses with each person who steps up for his or her case review.

“Remember: Mistakes are for learning,” she tells one man who messed up and received a “strike.” “What did you learn from your mistake?”

“Don’t hang out with those people no more,” he says with a grin.

“That would be like me hanging out in a bakery,” she responds, drawing a laugh from everyone in the

Deputy state public defender Carrie Lynn Thompson, right, listens as David Jones talks about charges he faces during an appearance in Drug Court

Deputy state public defender Carrie Lynn Thompson, right, listens as David Jones talks about charges he faces during an appearance in Drug Court

courtroom. “It would be ugly.”

Another man is about to move up into another phase of the program, but Kirkman looks at his charts and notices he has a legal issue to clear up: He was throwing things at cars.

“You’re not going to do that again, are you?” she says. Then she tells him the prosecutor is going to look into having the charge related to the offense dropped, so it won’t affect his status in Drug Court.

“That’s a huge gift,” Kirkman tells him. “Remember: An instant decision can change your whole future.”

Recognizing the individual

The parade of people continues its march in front of Kirkman’s bench, where a sign behind her reads “Justice with Heart.”

She asks about their children, and what character the kids will be for Halloween.

She notices improvements in their physical appearance, and keeps encouraging them, even those who show up in orange jail suits because they’ve failed a drug test or done something else to incur a strike.

She passes along phone numbers of treatment providers, asks family members if they can afford medical expenses, makes a note to follow up on dental care for Bonnie Norris, whose teeth are missing, though not from meth.

Kirkman believes it’s imperative to make sure participants are covered on the basics, including health care.

“Safe housing, food and water — we focus on these three first,” she says.

“Then, when they’re sober, we work on their health. They’re encouraged to see doctors and get their bodies healthy.”

Because many of the people are on the lower end of the economic scale and don’t have health insurance, the Drug Court team works with organizations to address their physical and mental health needs and get them medications.

They work with sobering houses to find people a supportive, drug-free place to live.

They’ve hooked up with an organization that arranges outdoors activities for people trying to stay off drugs and alcohol.

“Just about anything we can think of that will help, we try to plug into,” Kirkman says.

A huge component of the program is the team approach to handling each case.

Kirkman, prosecutor Judy Haller and DA volunteer Leticia Cisneros, therapists Gregory Ortega and Laura Fetters, and probation officers Jennifer Jones and Mike Hernandez meet regularly to discuss each Drug Court participant, what obstacles the person might be facing, and what he or she might need to succeed.

Most team members have been with Drug Court for at least four years, and they operate like a well-oiled machine.

“They have a very strong team that’s cohesive,” says Carrie Thompson, head of the Office of the Colorado State Public Defender office here.

“It’s been enlightening to see how they can work as a team, because that’s a concept that’s not in the regular court system.”

No easy process

Despite the best efforts of the team, about two in 10 people fail the Drug Court program, and they end up with a felony conviction, the result of a plea bargain they entered to get into the program. (Read about long-term studies on drug courts here.)

Team members also know some people will slip up after graduation, although they haven’t extensively tracked anyone long term.

“I think we can all think of a few cases where someone relapsed,” Haller says.

“That’s the reality of addiction,” Kirkman adds.

Still, they hope that the graduates will commit to long-term sobriety, but they know it’s not easy.

People often have to change their circle of friends, their routines, their whole reality. “It’s brutal,” Haller says.

 

Drug Court Graduate's Pledge

Drug Court Graduate's Pledge. ~By Joe Herzanek (click image for larger view)

But those who stick with it — and even some who are getting their first blush of sobriety through Drug Court — start to see the possibilities of a drug-free life.

“There’s a lot of drama, a lot of turmoil, chasing a bag,” says 45-year-old Gary Daily Jr., who used meth for 30 years before cleaning up nine months ago and is moving into the third phase of the program.

“I feel at peace. I still have my moments of life that are not always joyful, but I deal with it in different ways.”

If he graduates, he’ll get to go up to the podium at the next graduation ceremony, as Deanna Simmons and about a dozen other people did one evening last month, and go through the rites of passage.

He’ll hug Kirkman and, perhaps, some of the team members who are sitting off to the side, applauding his accomplishments.

He might say a few words of encouragement to the crowd, as several of the graduates did.

And Kirkman will give him a parting gift: his booking photo.

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To contact Joe Herzanek for Family Workshops, speaking engagements or one-on-one phone counseling:
Call: 303.775.6493 or Email Changing Lives Foundation: jherzanek@gmail.com

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December 15, 2010 by jherzanek | No comments

Holidays are more stressful for families
struggling with an addicted loved one

Why? Because most of us realize that family gatherings are both special and important. These are times when most of us will go out of our way to say “I love you”.

The warning I’m speaking about refers to a select few organizations who try to take advantage of hurting people.

You may have noticed several recent TV and radio ads touting various “addiction cures.”

There is a solution and a way to manage addiction–but there is NO CURE.

 

Holiday WarningBeware of anyone who tells you otherwise.

It saddens me to know that there are hurting families who are even more emotionally and financially drained–by false claims.

Please know that alcoholism and drug addiction are manageable problems. There is hope. And many, many people begin the journey called recovery every day.
~ Joe Herzanek

Learn even more about the difference between “quitting” and true recovery in Part 4 of “Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.”

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Surviving Meth

Justin Misner, 48, left, and Todd Meyer, 38, met in a Salvation Army program for meth addicts about three years ago and now are best friends and neighbors.

From the Colorado Springs Gazette, March 7, 2010
Barbara Cotter
Photo by Kevin Kreck

On a recent day in the late afternoon, Todd Meyer is deep in conversation with a visitor, and his two young children are hungry. Because he wants to finish the train of thought, he turns to a third adult in the room — his next-door neighbor Justin Misner — for help.

“Justin, will you make ’em a quesadilla?” Meyer asks.

Without a word, Misner gets up, herds 7-year-old Brooklynn and 4-year-old Lain into the kitchen and starts making dinner. Misner doesn’t have to ask where anything is or try to persuade the kids to stay with him and leave Dad alone.

Misner is like family; Meyer and his two kids see Misner and his three young children almost daily, and they move easily between one apartment and the other for quick visits. It’s the kind of close bond that can form when next-door neighbors have a lot in common, and Meyer, 38, and Misner, 48, have more in common than most.

Both are single fathers raising their children.

Both do house-painting and handyman work and are struggling to make ends meet in an economy that has hit their trade hard.

And both are recovering methamphetamine
addicts who also made and sold the drug, accumulating a string of felonies and several stays in jail along the way.

When Meyer and Misner met at a Colorado Springs drug rehab program in 2006, it brought together two souls who understood each other’s demons.

They also share an intense commitment to staying clean. Their motivation to sober up? Their kids.

“If these two hadn’t come along,” Meyer says, nodding at Brooklynn and Lain, “I’d probably still be doing meth.”

Misner echoes a similar commitment to his own children, ages 4, 6 and 7.

For almost three years, Meyer and Misner have been each other’s support system as they navigate the challenging road of being single dads, making it in a tough economy and living drug-free. It’s a struggle but worth it, the men say, because of their children.

Change for the worse

For as much as they have in common, Meyer and Misner got into drugs in strikingly different ways.

Meyer spent his early years in Fort Collins with his mother and a stepfather who he says tried to straighten him out with “three-quarter-inch plywood.” When he was about 13, he moved in with his father and stepmother, and got his first job, working as a dishwasher at a Fort Collins sports bar.

He also got his first taste of drugs. A co-worker in his 30s gave him cocaine. Waitresses brought him mixed drinks. A cook gave him a Christmas present of homegrown pot, which he divided and sold.

At 15, he tried meth and found nirvana.

“Meth mixed with me real well,” Meyer says.

By high school, he was using and selling meth, coke, acid, pot and mushrooms at school and parties.

The more he got into drugs, the less time he spent with his family. He’d be gone days, even weeks, without checking in. The family tried counseling. His father and stepmother tried using the gift of a car as incentive for Todd to clean up. Nothing worked.

“Eventually, it was time to pack his bags and throw him out,” says his father, Bob Meyer.

Todd Meyer was 16.

Misner was more than twice that age when he acquired his meth habit. He had started smoking pot in his teens, but gave it up to take a job at a Colorado Springs sheet metal company. By the time he was in his early 30s, he was married, working in management and living the American dream.

“Me and my ex-wife were making $70,000 a year. We owned our house,” he says. “Life was good.”

But the couple eventually got into the party scene, and he became a meth addict at the not-so-young age of 37. In quick succession, he quit his job, his wife of 14 years divorced him and he started manufacturing and selling the drug.

“We had a life — and we got into drugs, and life went down the drain,” Misner says.

Convergence

For both men, the years leading up to 2006 are different verses of the same song. They’d get clean for a time, then go back to the only life they knew: using, cooking and selling meth. They were arrested on various charges tied to their drug use, and spent time in jail, all of which did little to stop their involvement with the drug.

Both men also were arrested on charges of domestic violence, which Meyer blames on meth’s ability to fuel rage and distort reality.

“It’s illusions and delusions,” Meyer says.

And they got involved with women who they say were also meth heads, nursing a habit so bad that they used the drug when they were pregnant.

By 2006, both men were fathers several times over, and a life immersed in meth was catching up with them.

Misner failed a drug test, and his probation officer gave him a choice: prison or rehab.

“I was days away from going to prison,” Misner says. “I had to get into a program. I needed help.”

Meyer, meanwhile, was so defeated after spending more than half his life as a drug addict that he tried to kill himself by taking an overdose of antidepressants that a doctor had given him.

“I couldn’t live the life any more. I couldn’t do it,” Meyer says. “I wrote a note to my children, saying it’s not their fault, and put it in one boot. I wrote another to their mother.”

It was 26 hours before someone found him, but he survived — an “act of God,” he says — and quit using drugs.

“After the suicide attempt — whatever it did to him — he said, ‘I don’t have any craving for that stuff anymore,’” Bob Meyer recalls.

Todd Meyer felt he needed support but it was hard to find. A free rehab program through the Salvation Army in Denver was co-ed, which ruled Meyer out because of his domestic violence record. His search led him to the Colorado Springs Salvation Army program, for men only.

Five months after trying to kill himself and four months into being drug-free, he entered the program.

The road back

Meyer entered the Salvation Army program about a month before Misner, who recalls a bad first day. It was Aug. 28, 2006, and he got paperwork telling him the mother of his three children was taking them away. He found it hard to care about rehab.

“I was angry,” Misner says. “I wanted to kill my kids’ mother.”

Then Misner met Meyer and told him how distraught he was over his kids.

“That probably sealed our friendship,” Meyer says. “We talked. I told him: ‘You’ve gotta fight for your kids.’”

Misner got it. He let his anger go, he says, and it helped him physically, emotionally and spiritually. With Meyer’s support, he focused on sobriety, motivated by the thought of his three children.

“I told the judge, ‘I’m going through the Salvation Army because I want to change my life,” Misner says. “Their mother doesn’t.”

A month before graduating from the six-month program, Misner went to court and got custody of his children.

Meyer didn’t graduate from the program. He left to have knee surgery. But he stayed clean, went back to Fort Collins and got a job.

Then it was Misner’s turn to help Meyer, whose children had become wards of the state because their mother was using drugs again. Meyer’s dad and stepmother took custody of Brooklynn and Lain. Meanwhile, Meyer fought to prove to the courts he deserved custody and would be a good father.

Though Misner was still in Colorado Springs, the two talked by phone. A lot.

“Todd and I called each other every day,” Misner says. “Sometimes 10 times a day,” Meyer jokes. “There are countless things between the two of us that we’ve been through.”

Lucky break

While Meyer fought for custody in Fort Collins, Misner caught a break in Colorado Springs. He started working for his landlord, painting and fixing up vacant units in the apartment complex where he lived.

He called Meyer to come down and work with him.

Even better, he told Meyer the neighboring apartment was available.

Meyer and his children moved in next to Misner in July, and the two men worked together until business slowed around Christmas. Misner is still working, but barely making ends meet. Meyer is living on unemployment and food stamps, “making it work off $850 a month.”

He’s been looking for work — he worked in cultured marble for 10 years — but has several strikes against him. Jobs in the building trades are scarce, he says, and even though he’ll be clean three years on March 5, his criminal record won’t be.

“Where does a four-time convicted felon go to get a job?” Misner says in his friend’s defense. “You can’t get a job.”

Hindering his job search is the fact that Meyer has no car or driver’s license — a result, he says, of a series of traffic offenses committed while he was on meth. It will cost him $2,000 to get a license, he says.

“I’ve dug such a hole for myself with my driver’s license, with the felonies I have,” Meyer says. “That’s something that’s going to hinder me for the rest of my life.”

The road ahead

Besides their current struggles, both Misner and Meyer worry about the future.

For example, they fear the long-term health effects of their meth use. Already, Misner has lost his top teeth.

And will they be able to stay sober?

“They say you always have another relapse in you,” Misner says.

Meyer says he once gave up drugs for three-and-a-half years before giving in to temptation.

Both say this time, sobriety is permanent. That’s because they are doing it for the right reasons.

“You have to get to the point where you’re doing it for yourself,” Meyer said. “You have to want to change. If you’re doing it for anybody else, you’re going to fail.”

It helps that both Meyer and Misner have reconciled with family members after years of being estranged.

Mostly, they’re grateful and relieved that their children are OK, given that they were born to parents who were using meth, and spent their earliest years in what was, without a doubt, a dysfunctional environment.

“My kids were all conceived and raised in the madness of it,” Misner says. “The amazing thing is, our kids are happy. They’re stable. They still play and act like children.”

Perhaps the scariest thing about the future is the inevitable conversations they will have with their children.

One day, Misner and Meyer say they will open up to their kids about their past, as painful and embarrassing as it may be.

“When the time comes for them to know what I went through, they’ll know,” Meyer said. “The only thing I can tell them is, ‘Look, you come from two addicts — me and your mother. That’s a strike against you, and it probably means you’re going to have an addictive personality. You think it starts as fun and games — it does. But at the drop of a hat, it goes bad.”

It’s the same reason they are willing to tell the world about their lives and their mistakes.

“I don’t want anybody to go down this road like I did,” Meyer says. “It’s loneliness, despair and headache.”

DEA BannerMARIJUANA: THE FACTS


Q: Does marijuana pose health risks to users?

  • Marijuana is an addictive drug1with significant health consequences to its users and others. Many harmful short-term and long-term problems have been documented with its use:
  • The short term effects of marijuana use includes: memory loss, distorted perception, trouble with thinking and problem solving, loss of motor skills, decrease in muscle strength, increased heart rate, and anxiety2.
  • In recent years there has been a dramatic increase in the number of emergency room mentions of marijuana use. From 1993-2000, the number of emergency room marijuana mentions more than tripled.
  • There are also many long-term health consequences of marijuana use. According to the National Institutes of Health, studies show that someone who smokes five joints per week may be taking in as many cancer-causing chemicals as someone who smokes a full pack of cigarettes every day.
  • Marijuana contains more than 400 chemicals, including most of the harmful substances found in tobacco smoke. Smoking one marijuana cigarette deposits about four times more tar into the lungs than a filtered tobacco cigarette.
  • Harvard University researchers report that the risk of a heart attack is five times higher than usual in the hour after smoking marijuana.3
  • Smoking marijuana also weakens the immune system4 and raises the risk of lung infections.5 A Columbia University study found that a control group smoking a single marijuana cigarette every other day for a year had a white-blood-cell count that was 39 percent lower than normal, thus damaging the immune system and making the user far more susceptible to infection and sickness.6
  • Users can become dependent on marijuana to the point they must seek treatment to stop abusing it. In 1999, more than 200,000 Americans entered substance abuse treatment primarily for marijuana abuse and dependence.
  • More teens are in treatment for marijuana use than for any other drug or for alcohol. Adolescent admissions to substance abuse facilities for marijuana grew from 43 percent of all adolescent admissions in 1994 to 60 percent in 1999.
  • Marijuana is much stronger now than it was decades ago. According to data from the Potency Monitoring Project at the University of Mississippi, the tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) content of commercial-grade marijuana rose from an average of 3.71 percent in 1985 to an average of 5.57 percent in 1998. The average THC content of U.S. produced sinsemilla increased from 3.2 percent in 1977 to 12.8 percent in 1997.7

Q. Does marijuana have any medical value?

  • Any determination of a drug’s valid medical use must be based on the best available science undertaken by medical professionals. The Institute of Medicine conducted a comprehensive study in 1999 to assess the potential health benefits of marijuana and its constituent cannabinoids. The study concluded that smoking marijuana is not recommended for the treatment of any disease condition. In addition, there are more effective medications currently available. For those reasons, the Institute of Medicine concluded that there is little future in smoked marijuana as a medically approved medication.8
  • Advocates have promoted the use of marijuana to treat medical conditions such as glaucoma. However, this is a good example of more effective medicines already available. According to the Institute of Medicine, there are six classes of drugs and multiple surgical techniques that are available to treat glaucoma that effectively slow the progression of this disease by reducing high intraocular pressure.
  • In other studies, smoked marijuana has been shown to cause a variety of health problems, including cancer, respiratory problems, increased heart rate, loss of motor skills, and increased heart rate. Furthermore, marijuana can affect the immune system by impairing the ability of T-cells to fight off infections, demonstrating that marijuana can do more harm than good in people with already compromised immune systems.9
  • In addition, in a recent study by the Mayo Clinic, THC was shown to be less effective than standard treatments in helping cancer patients regain lost appetites.10

  • The DEA supports research into the safety and efficacy of THC (the major psychoactive component of marijuana), and such studies are ongoing, supported by grants from the National Institute on Drug Abuse.
  • As a result of such research, a synthetic THC drug, Marinol, has been available to the public since 1985. The Food and Drug Administration has determined that Marinol is safe, effective, and has therapeutic benefits for use as a treatment for nausea and vomiting associated with cancer chemotherapy, and as a treatment of weight loss in patients with AIDS. However, it does not produce the harmful health effects associated with smoking marijuana.
  • Furthermore, the DEA recently approved the University of California San Diego to undertake rigorous scientific studies to assess the safety and efficacy of cannabis compounds for treating certain debilitating medical conditions.
  • It’s also important to realize that the campaign to allow marijuana to be used as medicine is a tactical maneuver in an overall strategy to completely legalize all drugs. Pro-legalization groups have transformed the debate from decriminalizing drug use to one of compassion and care for people with serious diseases. The New York Times interviewed Ethan Nadelman, Director of the Lindesmith Center, in January 2000. Responding to criticism from former Drug Czar Barry McCaffrey that the medical marijuana issue is a stalking-horse for drug legalization, Mr. Nadelman did not contradict General McCaffrey. “Will it help lead toward marijuana legaization?” Mr. Nadelman said: “I hope so.”

Q. Does marijuana harm anyone besides the individual who smokes it?

  • Consider the public safety of others when confronted with intoxicated drug users:
  • Marijuana affects many skills required for safe driving: alertness, the ability to concentrate, coordination, and reaction time. These effects can last up to 24 hours after smoking marijuana. Marijuana use can make it difficult to judge distances and react to signals and signs on the road.11
  • In a 1990 report, the National Transportation Safety Board studied 182 fatal truck accidents. It found that just as many of the accidents were caused by drivers using marijuana as were caused by alcohol — 12.5 percent in each case.
  • Consider also that drug use, including marijuana, contributes to crime. A large percentage of those arrested for crimes test positive for marijuana. Nationwide, 40 percent of adult males tested positive for marijuana at the time of their arrest.

Q. Is marijuana a gateway drug?

  • Yes. Among marijuana’s most harmful consequences is its role in leading to the use of other illegal drugs like heroin and cocaine. Long-term studies of students who use drugs show that very few young people use other illegal drugs without first trying marijuana. While not all people who use marijuana go on to use other drugs, using marijuana sometimes lowers inhibitions about drug use and exposes users to a culture that encourages use of other drugs.
  • The risk of using cocaine has been estimated to be more than 104 times greater for those who have tried marijuana than for those who have never tried it.12

In Summary:

  • Marijuana is a dangerous, addictive drug that poses significant health threats to users.
  • Marijuana has no medical value that can’t be met more effectively by legal drugs.
  • Marijuana users are far more likely to use other drugs like cocaine and heroin than non-marijuana users.
  • Drug legalizers use “medical marijuana” as red herring in effort to advocate broader legalization of drug use.1Herbert Kleber, Mitchell Rosenthal, “Drug Myths from Abroad: Leniency is Dangerous, not Compassionate” Foreign Affairs Magazine, September/October 1998. Drug Watch International “NIDA Director cites Studies that Marijuana is Addictive.” “Research Finds Marijuana is Addictive,” Washington Times, July 24, 1995.
    2National Institue of Drug Abuse, Journal of the American Medical Association, Journal of Clinical Phamacology, International Journal of Clinical Pharmacology and Therapeutics, Pharmacology Review.
    3“Marijuana and Heart Attacks” Washington Post, March 3, 2000
    4I. B. Adams and BR Martin, “Cannabis: Pharmacology and Toxicology in Animals and Humans” Addiction 91: 1585-1614. 1996.
    5National Institute of Drug Abuse, “Smoking Any Substance Raises Risk of Lung Infections” NIDA Notes, Volume 12, Number 1, January/February 1997.
    6Dr. James Dobson, “Marijuana Can Cause Great Harm” Washington Times, February 23, 1999.
    72000 National Drug Control Strategy Annual Report, page 13.
    8“Marijuana and Medicine: Assessing the Science Base,” Institute of Medicine, 1999.
    9See footnotes in response to question 4 regarding marijuana’s short and long term health effects.
    10“Marijuana Appetite Boost Lacking in Cancer Study” The New York Times, May 13, 2001.
    11Marijuana: Facts Parents Need to Know, National Institute on Drug Abuse, National Institutes of Health.
    12Marijuana: Facts Parents Need to Know, National Institute on Drug Abuse, National Institutes of Health.

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November 16, 2010 by jherzanek | 6 comments

Alanon Faces Alcoholism 2011

Alanon Faces Alcoholism 2011

Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2011

Changing Lives strongly encourages finding a good 12-step group and attending regularly. This brand new Al-Anon publication can answer many of your basic questions.

To Download your copy of Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2011

Contents:
• How drinking affects family members
With so much effort and attention focused on the drinker, family members often
ignore—or deny—what effect the drinking has on them.

Why the drinker’s family members need Al‑Anon
Al‑Anon members and professionals explain how family members can benefit from
the understanding and support of an Al‑Anon group.

Alcoholism is a family illness
Problem drinking is a complex issue that involves much more than just
the drinker’s behavior.

The Al‑Anon meeting is a safe, supportive environment
Al‑Anon Family Group meetings create opportunities for healing and growth.
The Al‑Anon program offers ‘tools’ that help people manage their lives better
Al‑Anon members share choices they have made that enable them to respond more effectively to the challenges of problem drinking.
Therapy and Al‑Anon complement each other
Professionals recommend Al‑Anon because it offers additional support.
Al‑Anon is a spiritual program, not religious
Everyone is welcome, regardless of religious affiliation or none.
Al‑Anon can still help, even if active alcoholism is no longer in your life
Sometimes when the drinker is gone, the effects of the drinking remain—until they are understood.


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For those who attended last night’s workshop at Faith Bible Chapel in Arvada, CO—and wanted us to post the link to the clip at the end of our presentation . . . here it is.

Thanks to everyone who came. We hope to see you again soon!

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Derek Redmond

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My addiction is now in remission. Just the same, it is alive and well–ready to inflict a lot of pain on me. To forget this would be my greatest mistake.

Powerless over alcoholWe admitted that we were powerless over alcohol
and that our lives had become unmanageable.

—Step One, AA 12-Steps

After many years in recovery,
I know that I must not forget
this one principle–I will
always be an addict.

–Joe Herzanek

Whether you are a fan of twelve-step programs or not, the first step an attendee will hear offers a great deal of wisdom. The alcoholic/addict should never venture into the world without remembering the important bit of knowledge that Step One provides: Chemically dependent people will not ever be able to gain control over their substance use. Millions of addicted people have tried, and many have even died trying. Not one person has ever successfully returned to social use.

Admitting Powerlessness
After many years in recovery, I know that I must not forget this one principle–I will always be an addict. Confusion on this matter can lead to disastrous results. My substance use took me places I didn’t want to go, cost me more than I wanted to pay and kept me longer than I wanted to stay. My addiction is now in remission. Just the same, it is alive and well–ready to inflict a lot of pain on me. To forget this would be my greatest mistake.

I have a friend who owns a treatment center in the Colorado Rocky Mountains called Jaywalker Lodge. He accepts only men who are highly motivated to change. The program is a four-month-minimum-stay facility, cash only, no insurance. The entire focus is on Step One. It’s for men who have made several attempts to quit, only to find themselves stumbling again and again. Frustrated and broken, they arrive at the treatment center willing to do whatever it takes to regain their sobriety. This facility teaches men that the key to recovery starts with a true admission of powerlessness.

Once a recovering addict is convinced of their inability to ever control their using, they will no longer attempt to do so if they want to maintain their recovery. Incorporating Step One into a person’s life requires a daily ongoing shift in thinking–sometimes referred to as “one day at a time.” Lifelong recovery obviously involves much more than this one crucial admission. Recovery and rebuilding what was lost takes substantial time and effort. But it will all be in vain if this one fundamental principle is forgotten.

A Humbling Realization
Once the power or ability to control how much a person can use is lost, it is lost forever. Any attempt to regain control is futile. This applies to the user who is brand new to recovery as well as to someone with over two decades of abstinence. No one is tougher than addiction, and it’s one wound that time cannot heal. You, as a person close to the situation, should understand this fundamental step as a foundational principle.

It’s a humbling realization.

This article is excerpted from the book “Why Don’t They Just Quit?
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September 15, 2010 by jherzanek | No comments

 

Detachment. How Can I?
by Joe Herzanek

When life becomes one crisis after another, when emotional pain and endless drama become “the norm” what am I supposed to do? Over the past few decades I’ve received this question a lot. Recently it has become the #1 question. Why is that? What do I suggest to families who have arrived at this place? How about this: My suggestion is to do NOTHING! Stop “doing.” Quit “doing.” No longer “DO” anything.

Let’s talk about letting go and what that looks like (sometimes referred to as detachment). So there—I’ve said it; The “D” word, The Ultimatum, The Nuclear Option.

When to use it

Let’s start with “when to use it.” Detachment is usually the last resort—although it doesn’t have to be. This is most effective in the life of an “adult” loved-one who has demonstrated that they no longer have any ability to control or stop substance use on their own.

This person has a boatload of extremely negative consequences piling up all around them, but they continue to drink and/or drug. Often this pattern has gone on for years and gets progressively worse. Perhaps there were a few “okay” periods of time, but they didn’t last.

Sooner or later everyone sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

This person may or may not have a job (approximately 77% of all substance dependent men and women get up and go to work most days). They may function well enough on the job to be able to keep it. Many will even point to this fact as proof that they are not addicted. In reality most perform poorly on the job, miss work, and generally have a negative attitude about almost everything. This in turn, leads to “pour me another drink.”

Others move from job to job and eventually become unemployable. Some will tend to isolate and spend most or all of their time with their first love, AOD (alcohol and other drugs).

Family life, parenting, being the father, mother, spouse or sibling they once were is no longer a priority. In fact, it’s probably not on the radar screen at all. Borrowing money, promising to quit, burning bridges, causing heartache to anyone who comes close to them is the “new norm.”  When small children become part of this picture it gets more ugly. This is not sad; this is pathetic. If not now—when? When do the family members say, “We’ve had enough?”

This, dear reader, is the time to detach. This is the time to “do nothing.”

I also like to remind people of  “The Three C’s of Al-Anon” which are: “you didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it, and you can’t control it.”  What you can do is help the person to “want to” quit. If the “want to” is there, anyone can have recovery.

What does detachment look like? How do I do it?

Before I explain how it works, I need to add one caveat. I was recently in San Antonio conducting a workshop for The Palmer Drug Abuse Program (PDAP). The Program Director of this wonderful facility, a woman named Trish, reminded me of something important I sometimes tend to overlook. She said the family needs to be totally prepared for this step (intellectually and emotionally) and that for this to be effective, all family members need to be “on board.” Having emotional support and guidance regarding the necessity for such action, what to expect and being prepared is critical to the success of this step. This is not going to be a “walk in the park” and having good support is crucial.

So, how does one begin to do this? My first suggestion is to get a pen and paper and write out a plan (there is much more about this in my “Ten Toughest Questions” DVD and the link provided at the end of this article**).

Everyone’s situation will be unique, and obviously I can’t tackle each one here. Having said that, I suggest, at a minimum, that you jot down some bullet points you want to cover when you share your concerns with your loved-one. Even writing out what you want to say, word for word, is perfectly fine. Anticipate what the person will say or object to beforehand. Keep in mind that detachment is rarely forever. In fact, when you confront the person you have decided to detach from, put a timeframe on it (let them know how long it’ll be till you are willing to regain communication). Once you have reached this point, you need to remember that it’s too late for another broken promise or a few days of abstinence to mean anything.

So, here we go. You’ve prepared—both mentally, and you have a plan on paper–and you are ready to have a firm, but loving discussion with this person. A time to confront/talk with the person has been set and agreed to. You’ve asked this person to let you share your concerns and you simply read what you want to say or speak to them based on your written bullet points.

My suggestion is to determine a minimum period of total abstinence you are requiring from your addict or alcoholic—before you are willing talk to or see them again (thirty or sixty days should be the minimum). Begin by emphasizing to them that you love them very much and that it breaks your heart to see them continue with their substance abuse. Let them know that you (and all family members involved) have made this decision. You can list possible living options for them on their copy of your letter. Tell he or she–that they must decide which relationship is the most important—the one they currently have with their alcohol or drug use, or their own family. You must make it crystal clear that they have to choose–because they can’t have both.

There is so much more I could write on this topic—especially when I think of all the different scenarios possible. Please do your homework before attempting this, seek wise counsel*, read all you can and get a second opinion.

When it’s all “said and done” this tough love approach often works when nothing else will. Addiction, left alone will only get worse over time. What I remind people about in my book and in counseling is that “recovery is a process—not en event.”

This is why I sometimes suggest that you “do nothing.” The phrase “let go and let God” applies to the family members and friends–as well as the person seeking recovery. Detachment is one of the most difficult things that a person (especially a mom) may ever need to do.

Stay strong, seek support and know with confidence that no matter what happens—you have “done” everything you know to do.

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** Detachment–Letting Go of Someone Else’s Problem

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September 7, 2010 by jherzanek | 27 comments

The Flame

Joe and Judy Herzanek, Changing Lives Foundation

Joe and Judy Herzanek

Your Local Mission Dollars at Work
Joe Herzanek founder of Changing Lives Foundation

by Russ Teets

Editor’s note: This is the fourth in a series of articles describing the people and agencies in and around Boulder that First Pres supports through Local Missions.

First Pres’ relationship with Joe Herzanek started in 1999 when Local Missions began supporting him as the Chaplain at the Boulder County Jail. In that role, Joe leads Bible studies, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meetings in the jail, provides Bibles, conducts one-on-one Christian Studies and substance abuse counseling—along with coordinating all religious volunteer activities.

In his role as Addictions Counselor at the jail, Joe spends time counseling inmates and advising their family members and others in the community on effective ways to negotiate the often complex “world of addiction and recovery.” Approximately 90% of all inmates have an alcohol or drug problem. He often gets calls from family members asking for advice on what they can do to help the person quit.

Why Don't They Just Quit? Combo pack book & DVD

Why Don't They Just Quit? Combo pack book & DVD

Joe’s personal struggles earlier in life were preparation for working with offenders who also have addiction problems. From age 13 to 29, Joe battled his own drug and alcohol problem—finally receiving treatment. He now has over 30 years of abstinence from substances. Joe has a real passion for helping people caught up in substance abuse and also their family and friends. He is the founder of Changing Lives Foundation and author of the book Why Don’t They Just Quit? What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery which won the Best Self-Help Book award in 2008.

Changing Lives Foundation is committed to bringing to the public clear and concise information on substance abuse, drug addiction, alcoholism and compulsive behaviors. Perhaps more importantly, they focus on how individuals and families recover from these problems. Although it is very challenging, many people recover and make dramatic changes in their lives.

In addition to the book Why Don’t They Just Quit? Joe has a number of other resources to help families:
• a DVD titled The 10 Toughest Questions, which seem to come up again and again during the counseling he does. These include such topics as: “How can I tell if a person is addicted or just a heavy user? How do I confront this person? How do I handle adolescent use and abuse? How do I show my love without enabling? How do I get my life back?”
•    a wealth of resources on the website www.ChangingLivesFoundation.org
•    seminars for the public, like the one he held at First Pres last April.
•    radio shows
•    family counseling.
Joe specializes in “crisis counseling” for those situations that seem hopeless or impossible. He’s especially gifted at helping families find their way “out” and partnering with them to formulate a plan. This counseling can be in person or by phone.

Joe is a quiet, calm man with a deep faith in Jesus Christ—important attributes for dealing with crisis situations. According to Keith Vandergrift, Missions Pastor at First Pres: “Joe strikes a fine balance—demonstrating religious values in his approach to recovery, but avoiding a preachy or pushy posture. He makes it clear he is a Christian, but speaks in a way that is comfortable to anyone who wants to learn more about how to help others in their struggle. That’s not an easy thing to do and Joe pulls it off as well as anyone I’ve seen.”

Joe’s wife Judy works behind the scenes. As the Director of Creative Development and Marketing for Changing Lives Foundation she manages all communications, graphic design, marketing, customer service, order fulfillment and creative implementation of content for printed and online resources, publicity and presentations.

Lewis & Clark

Lewis & Clark

Joe and Judy have three children—and are fairly new “empty-nesters.” They enjoy living in Colorado, playing with their two Cairn Terriers Lewis and Clark (yes, just like Toto), camping, and most of all—hiking above treeline in the beautiful Rocky Mountains.

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September 5, 2010 by jherzanek | No comments

San Antonio Handling the Crisis Workshop

Changing Lives would like to extend a big “Thanks” to the wonderful people of San Antonio and especially for the support and hospitality of those who sponsored this event: Palmer Drug Abuse Program (PDAP), San Antonio Fighting Back and the Baptist Health Foundation of San Antonio.

Joe Herzanek and volunteer role play

Role-playing with Joe Herzanek

The two-hour workshop was very well attended (standing room only, with over 140 attendees). Joe and a volunteer did some role playing, there was plenty of good food, interaction, laughter and applause . . . and we had an emotional ending (see below).

Emotional ending.

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Coping With Family Tragedies
By Chase Block

Chase Block is the 15-year-old author of the new book, Chasing Happiness: One Boy’s Guide to Helping Other Kids Cope with Divorce, Parental Addictions and Death.

(Read more about Chase at the end of this article)

Chasing Happiness

I was a 13-year-old kid growing up in Jacksonville, Florida, when I decided I wanted to help other kids whose parents were divorcing.  My own folks split when I was 6, and then had other relationships, marriages and divorces. I felt I could help my friends learn what to expect when they were facing similar family shifts.

I decided to write a book of practical tips and advice to share, from a kid’s point of view, how to survive divorce. The day before I actually began working with an editor on the book, my mom killed herself.

My beautiful, wonderful mom, who was dearly loved by everyone, lost her decades-long battle with mental illness, an addiction to pills, and alcoholism. She took her own life eight years after she and my dad split up. I was shocked and confused – but I didn’t want to forget the book. As horrible as I felt, I knew other kids would go through this stuff too, and maybe my story could help them.

It wasn’t easy to talk about everything I was going through.  Now that my book, Chasing Happiness: One Boy’s Guide to Helping Other Kids Cope with Divorce, Parental Addictions and Death, is out, I’m hearing from people, like parents and teachers, who are so glad other kids can check it out.

I talk about the shock of Mom’s suicide, my grief and guilt, and my own suicidal thoughts. The biggest thing I learned, both from my parents’ divorce and my mom’s death, is that you can’t do it alone. Family, friends, teachers, therapists, hobbies — all have their place in helping kids work through the tough spots.

By the age of 14, I had gone through challenges that people twice my age couldn’t imagine. I hope my book can help kids dealing with their parents’ divorce, suicide, or any personal tragedy.  My message isn’t, “Look at how horrible this is,” but, “Here’s what I learned, and how I learned it. I want to share this information with you.”

I also hope to let people know we’re pretty smart.

We kids know a lot more than adults give us credit for.  We usually already know the stuff you try to hide from us. Just ask us! We really appreciate straight talk, and not just pretending that what’s happening right in front of us isn’t there.

For all the kids out there reading this, I hope you never have to go through really hard times. But, if you do, please know you’re not alone — you can make it through, and you can make a difference.

As for adults, after you read this, I hope you’ll never ignore our emotions, or think we don’t feel things as deeply as grownups because we’re not acting the way you think an upset or depressed person should. Don’t confuse ‘young’ with ‘clueless.’ We’re more intelligent, worldly, stressed out, and plugged in than you guys were at our age. We need your help, and we also need your respect.

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Chase Block

Chase Block

Chase Block is the 15-year-old author of the new book, Chasing Happiness: One Boy’s Guide to Helping Other Kids Cope with Divorce, Parental Addictions and Death. Chase’s parents divorced when he was 5. He wanted to help other kids understand what to expect when parents split, so he started outlining the information he wanted to share. The day before he began writing his book, Chase’s popular mom committed suicide, shocking and devastating the community. Instead of shelving the book project, Chase felt renewed urgency to share his personal journey from devastation to hope in order to help others dealing with similar tragic situations. Chase is considering a career in politics, and lives in Jacksonville with his dad and brother. To learn more, visit http://www.chasinghappinessbook.com or http://www.chaseblockbook.com.

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September 1, 2010 by jherzanek | No comments

Joe Herzanek

Providing families in need
with over 30 years of real-life,
hands-on experience and success
.

Do you long to sleep through the night? Do you wonder if you are doing the “right thing”? Do you wish you could make them stop their addiction? Does your life seem out of control? Have you had enough drama to last a lifetime?

Your situation may be unique, but it’s not hopeless.

We specialize in those tough, crisis “seemingly impossible” situations.

There IS a solution. Together we can formulate a plan to restore sanity to your life — saving you and your family time, money, stress and unnecessary heartache.

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We understand there are times when life seems so out of control and hopeless–you just can’t bring yourself to sit down and find answers from a book or DVD.

In order to effectively come alongside and partner with you to make changes you can live with, we offer one-on-one consulting. While most of Joe’s consulting is done over the phone, he also provides on-site consulting services.

You and your family will work with Joe to formulate a plan which will begin to restore sanity to your life–saving time, money, stress and unnecessary heartache.

Begin taking the steps your family needs to end the chaos and receive specific guidance for your unique circumstances.

Joe will walk you through the steps you need to take, giving you knowledge, support and confidence to “do what needs to be done – every step of the way.You can get through this.

Gain peace of mind, knowing that you are taking the steps necessary to begin healing and recovery–for your loved-one and your family.

 

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(Eminem addiction)

We met up with Eminem in a VIP lounge, and he talked about his new album, “Recovery” – which hits stores next Monday – and also really opened up about the trials he’s faced over the past several years.

This latest disc, he said, reflects a healthier place in his life.

“Recovery feels better than ever,” the Detroit rapper said. “Feels like I’m me again.”

But it wasn’t easy facing his drug addiction demons. Read more about Eminem addiction. . .

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“We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol
and that our lives had become unmanageable.”
~Step One, AA 12-Steps

Step One: What’s the big deal about Step One?

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Thanks to John Derry (A Home Away), for this wonderful review! (Click Here)

Also, check out John and Jane’s picturesque recovery retreat close to Vancouver, by Kelowna, British Columbia

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