Ask Joe: “I need help because I’m not able to deal with my live-in fiance’s need to get drunk every night”

It’s just going to get worse and he will bring you down to his level. He is going to blame you for everything especially his drinking. He doesn’t want to except his own actions and ad-mitt he is an alcoholic, So it’s much easier manipulating you so you will think it’s all your fault for the messier house or his socks has a hole in it, my ex went out and pulled an all nigher all because I brought the kids home a cat. You see they will not except their life and they don’t want you to point it out to them. My mother told me that if I stayed, I would eventually be brought down to his level and I didn’t want to do that. Also. a drunk and a sober person don’t get along very well. I can’t stand a drunk and if he is a crying drunk I have no pity on them at all. I can’t stand a crying drunk. It is good that you found out about him before you married him, they don’t usually change until they are in prison or knocking on death’s door.

Hi Susan,

I’m glad your son went to rehab. It’s now VERY IMPORTANT that he follow-up with lots of 12 Step groups. I don’t know of any better way to maintain long term sobriety.

Inhalant use is perhaps the worst when it comes to damaging the brain. If continued for a long period of time they will do irreparable brain damage. Don’t put up with it!
Joe